Should I be worried?
Ok so let me preface this by saying I don’t particularly see the big deal, the only reason I’m bringing this up is because other people are making me think it’s not normal!
So, me and my husband have been married for 5 years and have been together for a total of 13 years. We have a beautiful baby girl that I fought tooth and nail to get (he wouldn’t tell me yes or no for four years until I walked out one day and basically said either we have a baby or we get a divorce), and we’re actually really happy, the only thing that holds me back is the fact that he’s not that sexual a person! When we were trying for our baby, he would only have sex on days I was ovulating and saw it as a waste if we had sex outside of this. And throughout our marriage we would often go months without having sex, I would always ask him if he wanted a blowjob to which he wouldn’t object but always say “if you want” and he would sometimes finger me (I don’t like someone going down on me as I wouldn’t want to go there myself so I don’t expect someone else to). When we did have sex, it was good, but I often feel like I probably could have done without it, I’ve never had an orgasm from sex, and don’t get when women are so excited about sex 😳
Now we’ve had our daughter and haven’t had sex since she was conceived which was a year ago 😳 he has shown zero interest in sex and doesn’t initiate sexual contact, and he’s been saying he doesn’t wanna have sex unprotected incase we fall pregnant which would be too soon as our daughters only 4 months old! I guess a part of me gets jealous of women who fall pregnant by accident after their babies are so young because it means they’re spontaneous but at the same time I feel like I’m making a mountain out of a mole hill? What do yous think? Any insight would be appreciated. Here’s a pic of me and our little princess so we don’t get lost in the weeds