Those dogs will love you as you are all they've ever known. I couldn't imagine the heartbreak it would cause my pup. I get it must be hard, but dogs are part of the family to. Think I'd be divorced if I got rid and hubby wasn't here!
Bar the kids I'd rehome the lot of them. đ Seriously though you and your children are the priority. What he's done/doing is completely unfair, but it's happened and the majority won't agree but dogs are pets not family and not on a par with children or above your mental heath and wellbeing. If him moving out makes no difference let him go and take the dogs with him. Reading between the lines I think you'll have an easier, less stressful life.
I'm willing to try and train them via pet more pet classes where as he doesnt bother with them. no legally ive had to register them, chip them, take them to the vet, get them castrated etc because as i said hes home about 5 days a month and doesnt do anything other than hype them up. Ive said to rehome them but he has none of it nor takes any responsibility for them. I feel like theyre dumped on me and that they deserve a better life.
I think to do it while he isnât there is huge betrayal, regardless. I could never forgive someone if they rehomed without me knowing. Iâd also imagine heâs also listed as the dogs legal owners too (jointly or otherwise)
I canât imagine ever contemplating rehoming my pets. Theyâre family, and like all family it doesnât always means it is easy. But they are as much the part of the family as the humans.
Even if he doesn't take any care or responsibility for them leaving me having to deal with them.
Yes, it would be wrong for you to rehome while he isnât there.
It does sound like they need more training that you can't provide so it would probably be better/kinder to rehome them to someone who has got the time to put into them but I don't think you should do it behind your partners back