Birthing partners

Hello everyone! Has anyone decided who their birth partners are going to be? I feel like my mum will really want to be there and I love her to bits but she can get a bit anxious and flustered and if I’m getting stressed she’ll get more anxious and more stressed and I feel like it won’t help anyone, but I know she’ll be really disappointed if I say I just want it to be me and him. I don’t want her to be upset and I know she’ll take it personally but I also want to do what I think will be best for me. Just curious as to who others would be having? Am I an awful daughter if I say I want it to be just me and my partner?
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Thank you, my partner will be fab I’m sure, he always knows exactly what to do and say without me saying anything anyway so I’m really lucky. I just don’t want to create tension with my mum if she feels left out or upset but I’d prefer it be just me and him x

I've always known it will be my partner and my mum as it will bring comfort to both of us, luckily for me she is a doula.... Definitely don't feel bad about who you want to be there, it's you're experience and you want to enjoy it as much as possible

I wouldn't feel guilty. Just make sure you voice your feelings of worry across and how you would feel more at ease not having to worry about as many people in the room. I think it may just be me and my partner.

I'm on my 4th baby and it's always been my husband. I do hypnobirthing and the course is just amazing at going through your birth partner's role, and it's written into your birth plan so they and the midwife knows too. My mum has been at the house for my births incase my other children needed her. It's very personal and absolutely only you should ever make that choice of who is there.

In regards to your last question: Absolutely not. I don’t think it should be anyone’s place to tell you who should be in the room, that’s a conversation for you and your partner. You’re very lucky that your mum wants to be there so much, that’s really lovely - but in my mind, this is a time for you and your partner and if he wants to be there, that’s amazing, especially if you think he will be a good support. I’m fortunate that I have no doubt my partner will be incredible, so there’s no question that it will be him there with me. It’s our baby, he gets to be there, no questions asked. I wouldn’t take that away from him. (Cue him telling me he doesn’t want to be there after forcing him to binge watch One Born Every Minute 😅😜)

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