I regret dating my boyfriend

This….”relationship” is a train wreck. You should definitely opt for being single instead

This relationship seems really not compatible. You resent him and it’s clear there’s not any good thing you like about him anymore and he isn’t being very competent when it comes to being a dad and a partner. I’d say you should work on how you talk to him. Don’t antagonize him with insults. Sit down and have a mature conversation. If things can’t be fixed after that then you might just need to not be together.

He sounds no good for you or the baby. I would genuinely worry about leaving the baby alone with him.

And it sounds like he’s not the child father correct me if I’m wrong but that’s just how I interpreted when I read it so he probably doesn’t feel obligated and if he is the father sounds like a piece of shit you’d be better off with out I would definitely leave him in a heart beat

@Immy she did say she doesn’t truly trust leaving them alone together. That alone would be enough for me not to. You have to trust your partner with your babies. Even if their the father, and you have doubts…

Woah I had to stop reading at the part where you said he held you son down. That along with the other horrible things he’s doing us a huge NO. If he thinks holding a baby down is good parenting and “ helping” then that’s just alarming. I’d be having serious talks if that were my partner, but if my partner did all those things i would have binned him off a long time ago. You don’t need that

@Drew which part of her expectations are high??? Her profile also states that she has anxiety and can feel judged so this is a strange comment to make. It may be that you mean she is unlikely to find someone who’s fully supportive but that still wouldn’t make her standards high. If you choose to be with someone with a child that young you commit to supporting them, not wasting a ton of money, not neglecting them and certainly not physically assaulting the child.

From when you said you’re living with his family it sounds like there may be some financial difficulties that would make it difficult to leave him? But tbh with the way things are sounding it honestly seems like even a women’s shelter or something would be better for you and the baby at least so you can just be focused on the kid as sounds like you’re a very competent mum

If you trust the guys parents, I'd definitely talk to them and him about them helping him learn more with babies and you and him with stress and his energy levels. I had the same issues with my husband and I was not very nice and understanding, I wasn't very proud of my behavior, but I also had my mom who could have helped more, she wanted to, but my husband wanted to be that person for our daughter. Try to focus on what he does right as he isn't in a headset where it matters from you to tell him he needs to do better, let him struggle with it himself, the financial sides and stuff, if you have to split finances it's not a horrendous thing. Dads are more supportive and relaxed with each other, where finding mom friends is more difficult in general, dads don't struggle so much, I'd encourage him to find other dads or parent couple friends and do things together, helps build that confidence and positivity. As far as the sleep thing goes, it is really really frustrating

My husband didn't struggle with being physical or rude with our daughter, he did struggle with comforting her especially when she was crying all the time in the beginning and he couldn't breast feed 😂 it really just sounds like you have to weigh out the true feelings and if aside from the baby struggle what you guys have had with each other, from my experience everyone I know has their times with their children they thrive with and that they struggle with. I feel that I do a good job with pregnancy and newborn, but ages 6mo-3 years are my most challenging, after that I feel I am more equipt. Husband was really good with daughter at 6mo and now, they laugh and she loves to learn things with him. It helps not looking at the current picture but the whole picture of what possibilities of a father they can be instead of focusing on the times they struggle. And accepting their lifestyle as is instead of fighting it. By accepting, I don't mean staying, I mean respecting but making your choic

Based off of it and if your lifestyle is obtainable with what you see at the majority of the intervals.

I was going through the same thing for a while. My SO was not trying to be involved with me or baby life after our daughter was born. Then I bitched. Scared him a few times. Stuff like that. He doesn’t want to be a single person and having to pay child support for two kids until they 18 and having to wonder why his kids hates him. He didn’t want that. So he stepped up. I’m sorry for what you going through. I wish there something I can do for you.

Uhhhh maybe it's the fact I've been there it's so easy now to say move the f out or something. But be done you aren't married. Take the baby, put him on child support and go about your life.

@Odessa I don't antagonize him usually I just ask him over and over until I do his responsibilities for him

Sounds like he's got a lot of maturing to do I hope he's at least young because he has a long way to go

So break up with him, this isn’t a complicated matter. He treats your son like trash and you even worse. You’re an adult, it’s clear you want to prioritize your child so you need to leave this man and do just that. This man is incredibly immature and sounds like he’s a risk to your son. I’m not saying it will be easy by any means to do things on your own but it sounds like you are doing almost everything solo anyways. I saw someone say you are living with his parents.. if you aren’t already on state aid I would look at applying as well as applying for section 8 housing if that’s what you need to leave this situation.

What a mess beloved. He seem lazy and incompetent. You can do better sis

Sounds like u need to get out and get worse ,alos baby sees u ,thinks this is a normal way to behave (leave ).

@Lara she can’t put him on child support. He’s not the baby’s father

This is all wrong and I’m sorry you are in this situation but you can get out. I’m concerned about the baby being held down, I found it hard reading that bit. Your boyfriend sounds abusive

Leave him

Leave him. He isn't helping anyway. You'll probably be less stressed.

The food issue, call the salvos and get food assistance, don't ever go hungry for a man!! It is hard to ask for help I know, it is so hard. When I called I'd second guess myself or worry reported to social services for financial hardship - but it's not like that at all. Social services would want you and your babies to eat too, and they would be far more upset by an empty fridge causing neglect than a person in a tough patch seeking and getting help!! You are not alone. Please ask for help if you are hungry, everyone decent in this world wants the best for you and your family.

@Taylor It is a complicated matter because even with all government assistance that I can possibly get . A job with no child care is extremely difficult and in my state you have to have a job and verify you have a job for a little least a month before you can get child care and if I leave my boyfriend I lose absolutely all my support. No one will babysit the kid. It's not simple. Can't just walk away. Up until my son was born. I was in an even worse situation and at least staying means that my son has a roof over his head and family