i just can’t forget how my boyfriends mum treated me in pregnancy…

my boyfriend is always making comments about how i don’t like his family. his dad is lovely but admittedly i was treated like shit by his mum and received a nasty message from his sister whilst pregnant. i’ve tried to forgive and forget but i just can’t and she still very much crosses boundaries. for example his mum and sister pretty much play pass the baby and she walks off with her. pretty much in pregnancy she saw it as me taking away her son. he came to live with me and my parents (bigger house and spare room for baby) my boyfriends room at his parents literally fit a single bed and a dresser and was still cramped. i also didn’t have a car so i wouldn’t of been able to get to work and be isolated my whole pregnancy with no friends or family around as they live about an hour away. she would say how everything was on my terms and nothing had changed for me like i wasn’t growing a baby for 9 months. then she and my boyfriend had a huge argument over our boundaries. i mean basic ones not kissing baby no unannounced visits when baby arrived and many were twisted to suit her poor uninvolved grandma narrative. i tried to be nice and say she could visit alone soon after birth without the rest of his family but she twisted this to me being nasty. i didn’t want any visitors for a few days so i was actually trying to accommodate her and be nice. nope, shoved back in my face. both his parents did in fact visit the day after my emergency c-section in hospital and i was so overwhelmed i hated it i was literally naked in a nappy. when i tried to sort things and say to her how she had upset me and why we have those boundaries in place for baby she just manipulated me and painted me to be the bad person, denied things she had said. told me i should be apologising so i just ignored her. then got a nasty text from the sister threatening me and my boyfriend to apologise. my boyfriends dad then got us all together to sort it out which it didn’t really get sorted out it just got swept under the rug with no apology. if he hadn’t of got us all together i was going to go no contact. now i just can’t really get over it to be honest. the fact that she wanted to take a pregnant woman away from the support of her own family and friends for her own benefit. and then manipulate me and twist every word i ever said :/ but it causes friction between me and my boyfriend because i hate going to visit and when she visits. especially when we go to visit though as it ends up 4 hours out of the day to watch the woman that treated me like shit hog my child and get all petty over someone else wanting a cuddle.