in April 2024 Babies 🇬🇧

Friend ignored pregnancy announcement

I had a best friend for years but over the last 2 years we have drifted, whenever I try to make plans with her she often flakes on the day without a word. The last time this happened was months ago. She was supposed to come round but never did, nor did she respond to my message asking if she was coming! Throughout the pregnancy I haven’t heard anything from her since, so I never told her. Last week, I posted my scan on my Instagram story as an announcement. She saw the story but she hasn’t said anything at all. I’m so confused. I’ve asked her before if there’s an issue between us and she was super reassuring in the past like “no i love you so much etc I’m just bad at showing up lately”. She does experience low moods/depression I think and can recluse sometimes. I’ve tried so much to reach out over the last 2 years and check that things are ok etc, arrange plans etc but recently I’ve been doing it less because I get nothing back. I feel like ignoring the pregnancy announcement is saying a lot though and this feels like a nail in the coffin for the friendship. Should I say something to her e.g. ask why she hasn’t said anything and tell her that I’m upset/disappointed? I don’t want to come across entitled like I expect people to be happy for me etc but it’s my best friend who used to call me her sister!!

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Yes this happened to me as well it’s so hard but I just stopped making the effort when I got pregnant as it was always me and now we don’t speak. True friends don’t treat you like this. I had my little boy two years ago and have realised who my genuine friends are and have a made some lovely new friends. It’s their loss at the end of the day I say xx

It’s sad but sometimes your inner circle changes. She might become a great friend again in the future or you may have had all the time you need with her. You can speak to her but don’t be discouraged if she pretends everything’s fine. You know the vibes off and effort should come from both of you.

I would just accept it to be honest and definitely not reach out again. Call it sad or the end of a chapter but new, exciting and better things are coming 🥰 surround yourself with supportive family and friends! If she reached out in a year or two then I wouldn’t hold a grudge but right now just focus on the here and now and all the amazing things to come x

I would accept that she isn’t invested in the friendship anymore, it’s sad she hasn’t had the decency to give an explanation as to why, and to not address your announcement is sad. I’m going through something similar but we have both been as bad as each other with keeping in touch / making plans. But last going off I have really tried to communicate with her and it just doesn’t seem the same anymore, I’m unsure wether to tell her I’m pregnant before announcing as on my daughters 2nd birthday she didn’t reach out personally to say happy birthday, only commented it on a post. Sounds petty but I make such a fuss for her daughter’s birthday every year! (She’s 7). Point being, I’m just letting this go and moving on with the current important people in my life. I wouldn’t reach out, I’d let it be. X

You find out your real friends when you are pregnant/have kids, this clearly isn't one! It's a shame but don't empty your cup pouring it into someone else's x

Thanks everyone! I will definitely not be reaching out after your comments because sometimes you really do just have to let people go & that’s ok. So much to focus on right now ❤️

I didn’t do an announcement on social media just decided to tell a few (who I considered close friends). One “friend” hasn’t even replied to my message which I find hurtful especially as only 6 months ago she came to our wedding. But I’m not going to make a deal of it just let it go and maybe when baby is born I’ll get a message 🤷🏾‍♀️

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