What if I never make it to FET?

I just need to vent or maybe hear stories of encouragement. I went thru a very tumultuous 3 years to have my son, with many failed pregnancies, ectopics, PCOS, etc. We started IVF and made embryos but ultimately I ended up conceiving and delivering him without intervention. Fast forward another 3 years and we’d like to give him a sibling. We tried naturally for a few months but I found it really stressful (maybe a little ptsd?) so we decided to use our embryos. I foolishly thought a FET would be “easier” - ya know, controlled environment, lots of monitoring, professional help. But after months of tons of meds and waking up at 5 am to drive to early morning monitoring appointments, I’ve had two canceled cycles because my lining won’t respond!! And this month was a no-go because they won’t schedule around the holidays. So now I have to wait til Jan/Feb whenever I get my next period and I’m just worried that it’s going to be the same result. We already tried a different protocol and changing the meds but what if we run out of things to try? Is there anyone who IVF just simply never happened for??? I can’t even wrap my head around something like surrogacy because, for one, we can’t afford it; and, I already carried a baby on my own successfully! WTF??? I’m just so frustrated. Ugh.

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Hey, totally understand the frustration. I was told I’d never carry after freezing embryos. I dwelt with a year of cancelled cycles. I got a second opinion and was able to have 2 girls. Is that an option for you? A fresh set of eyes on your medical record could be helpful. A new Dr could have new ideas.

thank you for sharing. Switching doctors is something I’m thinking about. It’s just extra frustrating because I recently moved and paid a lot of money to transport my embryos to my new clinic and don’t want to do it again 😣

I had to do the same, transporting them to a new city and hospital. It was the best decision I’ve ever made. Money comes and goes but the opportunity to conceive can be limited. If you can make it work I’d recommend it. These times will be the hardest emotionally and financially but if you can push forward it will be worth it. 🫶🏼

My lining also didn’t respond, we changed protocol and I ended up at the minimum required and had a successful pregnancy. It was so stressful but I’m glad my clinic was so flexible with my doses and treatment. It took several months but we managed it in the end!

thanks for sharing. Can I ask what your clinic set as the minimum requirement? Mine will try a transfer with a minimum of 6 but I feel like this is so much lower than most places

they really wanted me to get to 7.5mm but did start to consider letting me do it at 6mm as I just couldn’t get above 6. They said there could be plenty of pregnancies with smaller linings and we just don’t know about them, maybe even your successful one! I went up to a very high dose of oestrogen as a final attempt, I did patches instead of tablets as the tablets did nothing. The patches shot my lining up overnight, something about the delivery method really changed how I reacted. So I got to 7.8mm I think in the end. Have you tried patches?

yes my last two cycles I was using three patches every other day 😔 and during the last cycle we also added viagra suppositories. They definitely helped but I was still hovering around 6 mm

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Am I pregnant?

I lightly spotted almost 5 days ago, which is not common for me before my period.
My period was supposed to come today. I should have tested in the morning but its 5:30pm.
Is there a second line??

Anyone have this happen before?

We were not trying to conceive, used protection and had sex on week 2 of my cycle (accidentally on my peak ovulation day). Week 3 we had Flu A. Week 4 my period did not come (it’s very regular). I tested and it was negative (2 different brands).
What should have been week 2 of my next cycle (now 6 weeks post last period), I had light red/ pink spotting for one day when I wiped. The following week, I tested again, still negative, but this time almost all the dye was in the negative space, which I’ve never seen happen before. The area where it shows one horizontal line for negative and a plus sign for positive, the horizontal line was super faded at the 3 minute mark, and the negative vertical line in the next window was VERY dark. Now I’m on week 8 of all this, period did not show up yesterday. Nothing in my life has changed (no additional stress, no other illness, no changes in diet or exercise, etc).

Has anyone gone through this and NOT been pregnant? I’m super nervous as we thought we were done having kids.

PS. I know I should go get a blood test, does anyone know if urgent care will do that? I’m past being convinced by a pee test.

Help pls

I'm 7 weeks pp. Not had sex or even done anything but my tests have come back positive. I wouldnt test but had symptoms of pregnancy so I tested. What does this mean? Google says it should have been negative at this stage unless its a new pregnancy or bits of placenta has been left behind. I had a c section so 🤷‍♀️

Is it normal to test positive still? (Wouldn't usually do one)

Not the best pic and clearer in person. Is this normal? I've not had any sex since having my LO but I've had strong cravings, sense of smell is strong and my hair still hasnt started to fall out. Im 7 weeks pp so 🤷‍♀️ I wouldnt normally bother testing but with those symptoms that I never really have its like whats going on. Cravings for something very specific too and can only get from KFC now 😩 so its annoying

Can baby mamas be friends?

My son has an older brother from his biodad. Biodad has never had contact with my son. One thing lead to another though and the other child's mother and I got in contact and are planning a meeting for the boys. Biodad has no idea any of this has happened. Biodad also hasnt had contact with the other child in about 2 years. Just thoughts, opinions, anyone been through something similar?
Edit-Thank you all! Have definitely been feeling somewhat weird about it because we never met before but now know it can be a good thing definitely helps. I can't wait for them to meet. My son has been asking for a brother and I can now happily tell him he has one. That just happens to be 13. Im sorry for yall that fight/have issues with the other baby mamas. Sadly some women rather be stuck on the men, when the kid is the one who really matters. They're the ones that end up getting hurt and missing out.

Ovulation test

Please please someone clarify if this test is positive. Im pretty sure it is but Im in disbelief at the minute I haven’t ovulated in 8 months. I feel like crying lol. When is the best time to have sex?