Why are grandparents soo obsessed with having your baby/kids without you 😏🫣 my mum seems to think I will love it when my little one goes to nursery but actually I have separation anxiety and LOVE spending all my time with my child.

You’re completely valid in feeling like that, don’t let anyone else make you feel otherwise. I feel the same, I love every second with my daughter & have no intention of leaving her with anyone but my partner any time soon. But yeah, grandparents insisting on having them without you, I’ve had that too. It’s especially worse when you say no I’m not ready & they continue to push you or try to persuade you. It’s not always the case of them simply being ‘excited to be grandparents’ esp when they’re attempting to push boundaries you’ve set

Sounds like you’re referring to two different things. Some moms like having their kids go to nursery and some don’t so that’s a toss up I would say. As far as grandparents wanting to spend time with their grandchildren…. I don’t think that’s a bad thing.

@Oll she said the baby’s going to nursery, not to the grandparents house. Isn’t it obvious? 😂

Because it’s their grandkids? I love my kids but I definitely hope to spend one on one time with my grandkids. As much as humanly possible. But reading comments on threads like this does make it clear why so many MILs hate their sons wives 😂😂😂😂

@SquishyMommy1 love this honesty 👏🏻 I feel bad for 90% of the MIL’s on this app 😂 they literally can’t do anything right

@Brittany I am a MIL now 😂 and she’s a delightful gem and we have a great relationship. I legit would not even know what to say if they said something like “grandparents don’t need alone time with a kid that isn’t theirs.” I mean technically if it’s my uterus owners kid it’s mine too since I grew the eggs inside their ovaries right along with the rest of their body 😂😂😂😂. Thankfully my son and his wife were excited for us to have a close relationship with their child.

@SquishyMommy1 yay that’s awesome! I’m glad you guys have a good relationship! I love my MIL and she loves me. Always compliments me and says she’s happy she gained another daughter. Do I agree with her all the time? No. Is she perfect? No. But none of us are. And if there’s an overall respect there for one another, I think that’s something to be proud of. When she has my kids with her, all I care about is that they’re safe and happy.

My daughter is 2, and my relationship with my inlaws has suffered since she was born because they wanted to see my baby without me... RED FLAGS! We are getting back on track now, but I don't think anyone should request alone time with a baby family or not it should be a natural flow, and when Mum is happy for it to happen!

@Emma why exactly is that a red flag?

@SquishyMommy1 The fact they requested for my baby and for me not to be there, it's rude and hurtful, and it's clear because they wanted to overstep boundaries

My dad often says that every time he tries to talk to one of the grandchildren either myself of my sil will answer for them. It’s nice to have time to yourself sometimes although now mine are 7 and 14 I don’t like them having them as my mum is disabled and my dad isn’t well plus they are all secretive about where they are taking them and it drives me up the wall. Loved when my youngest went to nursery. She was so clingy during the day plus her speech was delayed. Loved seeing the excitement when I dropped her off and picked her up.

@Emma k 🙄

My mum offers to take her without me so I can rest. I don’t see her often so it’s not about taking her away from me, it’s about her letting ME get a break.

I don’t think it’s just grandparents. Everyone wants to hold the baby so you can have a ‘break’. I don’t want a break from my baby, I want to hold and cuddle my baby as much as possible because I’ll regret the times I wasn’t cuddling her when she’s grown up and she thinks she’s too cool to cuddle or hang out with her mum

If either set of grandparents wanted time with my LO without me I think that’d be weird. I don’t get why they wouldn’t want you there 🤔. But I think some MILs don’t put effort into building a relationship with their DIL but when baby is here they expect to be on the same trust level as birth mother’s mum. I’d leave my baby in a heartbeat with my own mum if I had to run an errand go to an appointment etc. but I wouldn’t feel comfortable leaving him with my MIL. I don’t know her well enough. It all depends on your relationships with people! I don’t want any time away from my LO he has to go to nursery when he’s 1 and I’m dreading it 😔.

@Jessica isit? I don’t think so

@Oll ur clearly bored and need to go find something better to do, Isn’t that obvious?

@Sarah exactly this. My mom would watch my kids for a couple hours hear and there during the newborn stage so I can get naps in. Heavenly lol

@SquishyMommy1 post isn’t about u

Oh no I wasn’t talking to you I was being sarcastic to the very first comment from Oll! I totally understand you, my MIL is the same way it’s a bit annoying! She comes over once a week to “give me a break” and half the time I don’t even need it. She also had him for a sleepover at just 2 months old for the same reason and I missed him the whole time, I cried before I went to bed.

Thanks for the responses guys! I probably could have put more context into the post but was generally more around grandparent adamant that I need to be without my baby knowing I’m not ready yet/bit of Separation anxiety still or them maybe thinking Im fed up and would rather want to go out by myself e.g partying or with friends instead but actually I like spending time with my child. Obviously I know grandparents would Love to spend time with their grandkids and I didn’t say that u do or wanted to stop them. To the trolls on here and people who think there is only one opinion and everyone else is wrong - thanks for ur opinions and have a great Xmas.

Yeah my MIL always says, I want to give you a break, go off and do errands or go shopping, I’ll watch the kids. I’m a stay at home mom and I like spending time with my little ones… hence why I’m a stay at home mom.

@Jessica sorry I think I even intended to respond to the same person 😂 A sleepover at months old?! No way, I wouldn’t have been able to do that. Thas soo young 😭 awwwww Do u feel like it’s good for u?