A kid bit my son at daycare, what should I do

i feel like you have the right to know who bit him!! i would be furious !!

I would raise hell. They’re not telling you who bit your son?! Sue them.

Would you want them to tell an angry parent that your child was the one that bit their child?

Okay firstly you can not sue them, they have privacy laws that you signed when you did all your paperwork. Secondly they should have a system to keep record of incidents, and have steps to take to rectify the situation. I’ve worked in childcare and have had two kids who have been through daycare. This is normal. My son had a large chuck bit out of his back by a child who was special needs (they just didn’t know it at that time.) It was his third bite and he had to be removed from the daycare and placed into higher care. My son healed fine. It’s hard because you want to protect your baby but little ones don’t have impulse control and as hard as some try to avoid accidents these things happen. I hope you can move past it and that it doesn’t happen again.

@Lexi Hawkins as someone who works in childcare, it is common procedure to not disclose the child’s name who harmed him. Some parents have retaliated against children who have harmed theirs. Confidentiality is common in childcare!

Thanks so your comments. I keep thinking if the situation was reversed, there isn't much I could do where ny son is concerned, he is 14 months old and he understands what no means but no matter how many times I tell him "no don't do that" when he drops his toys and bottle on the floor, he doesn't listen. I just hope that the day care keeps him away from the child that bit him because that's what they said they were going to do and I hope he doesn't bite any of the other kids. It just sucks that my sweet innocent little boy got bitten on his face, he must have been so confused and I know it had to hurt a lot because his cheek is swollen and red and I could still see the mouth print from the little biter.

@Holly agreed, however I can't wrap my mind around this, maybe I'm wrong but where did that kid learn to bite? My son doesn't know anything about biting because I don't bite him, i think biting is something that's learnt, like I said, I could be wrong but I never bit anyone growing up because that wasn't taught to me.

@Rachel kids are not always “taught” how to bite. They mostly do it due to a lack of impulse control, frustration, and them teething. Getting teeth hurts and biting on things helps relieve the pain.

@Rachel it's not about learning to bite. Some kids bite and some don't. It also depends on how the parents handle it. I have had parents pick up kids and when I tell them their child hurt another the response I get is "boys will be boys" or "no. We don't do that" and it's never handled. And your son now does know something about biting and he might do it. That child might have seen another do it in daycare. In this situation you don't have 100% control of what he is exposed to so he can learn bad habits from those he's around.

Im sorry that happened. I’m sure the other kid was frustrated or teething or something. It’s pretty common for babies/toddlers to bite, especially in those situations. It is also common for daycares to not disclose other children’s information for confidentiality reasons. I mean I understand your frustration because your son got bit, but it could have easily been the other way around. If you did know who the other child is, what would you even do? They’re toddlers and learning to explore and just don’t know boundaries yet. I’m sure it wasn’t a specific “attack” on your son and would have happened to any kid that got in that child’s way.

lol my kid bit my husband in the face yesterday over him not being fast enough with her snacks. Lord help us if we tried to send her to daycare… hope your kids learn to run fast. (In all seriousness, we are really trying to teach her gentle play but she was born with rage in her soul)

As hard as it is to hear, unfortunately, it is developmentally normal to bite at this age. If you imagine, you can't communicate using words yet and someone is doing something you don't like (for example has a toy you want etc) the only the way to communicate your frustration is to unfortunately, bite or hit. It sucks for us parents, but just know that there's probably gonna come a time when your kid is the one who's biting, pushing, hitting, haha. It's actually a great learning opportunity once they're a bit older, but every kid does it at some point. As a preschool teacher, I swear 3-5 year olds have more drama than teenagers 🥴🥴🥴

My son bit a girl twice at daycare, two weeks in a row. Hes not violent or dangerous, he never bites at home. I apologized to the mother and made a point to explain to my son about not bitting but to be honest it happens. In my situation the daycare worker watch them interact and really saw what was happening. The girl was stealing all my sons toys and since he doesnt speak very well at some point he bit her. Its always a good thing to ask what happened, like not which kid it is, but why your child was bitten.

Tell the teacher you’re gonna bite her if she doesn’t tell you

My son was bit twice at daycare than a few months later he bit other kids on 3 different occasions. His daycare wouldn’t tell us who bit him or who he was bitting. I asked what we can do to help. They said at this age it is normal and all we can do is redirect them. They said not to say “no bitting” because they hear the last word and think bitting. They said to say we don’t bite our friends we bite apples or something like that. I did ask if he was bitting the same kid. I wanted to know if he was having problems with one kid. They just told me he was bitting the girls. I know how I felt when he first got bit and so I felt for the kids parents that he bit. My son never bites us at home so it is hard to reinforce not bitting other at home. I asked my mom about the bitting at this age and she said it could be teething or fighting over a toy. They don’t know how to communicate yet and that is how they can communicate.

@Lexie what I'd do is make sure that all the picture updates I get from the daycare, that my little boy is not playing with the kid who bit him. There's nothing else I can do

@Audree thank you!! That's exactly what I'm going to do when I drop him off today. I'd like to know if my son did anything to provoke the other child.

@Maysa 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

So… my child has been bit twice and I was so angry. But what calmed me down is knowing that if my daughter bit someone I would want the parents to give me some grace. They should be doing a paper trail and the other parents are notified.