Someone put beer on my baby’s dummy

I’m absolutely devastated and furious. During a family meal today, my 3 month old baby’s grandad dipped her dummy in his beer and gave it to her, I didn’t see until she already had it in her mouth (I was holding her and looked away for a second, literally!) He did not ask (obvs I’d have said NO) and he thought it was a funny joke. I instantly felt like I was gonna cry and was so upset but didn’t know what to do for the whole meal, it’s my partners dad and there were lots of people and I’m also generally shy. My partner is also unhappy about it. He’s said he’s gonna speak to him about it… I got in the car and burst into tears. I feel so guilty that I didn’t see, and I’m so upset it happened at all. I am also upset as she’s never had anything but milk and now the first thing she’s had is beer. I’m just still shocked anyone would do that at all and upset and worried for my baby. I just needed to vent 😔

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Oh gosh that's so not ok! So sorry that's happened X know that it was not your fault though, I do feel for you, I think I'd be in bits myself! Keep an extra eye on him around your baby from now on I'd say x I hope you're able to enjoy yourself this Xmas still xx

Oh my god my jaw was on the floor reading this I am so sorry!! You have every right to be PISSED I’d lose my shit!!

I’m sure baby will be okay as it was only dipped she didn’t consume much, but that was definitely out of line I don’t think I’d let him see my baby again

I’m shy like you. I know baby will be okay but I know where my baby WONT be going anymore. And I know who to stay away from too. Like what! The AUDACITY!!!!! When they ask why tell them cause he tried to poison your baby. Idc be super dramatic so they know it wasn’t cool

Oh my god I am so sorry, that's so wrong! I'd have cried too, honestly. Please don't think it's your fault, he shouldn't have done it. I'd never let him see your baby again. If he does that while you're present, I'd be worried about what he'd do when you and your partner aren't around x

I’d never speak to my FIL again if he did something like that. That is awful, I’m so sorry x

Your FIL’s a dick, he really is . I’d be so annoyed at him. In terms of baby, try not to be upset or guilty about the fact this is the first thing she’s had apart from milk though, there’s nothing you can do about it now. My sister actually fed me perfume at 2 weeks old 😐huge amount of alcohol in it, had to be taken to a&e because I was out of it. Point is - direct all emotion towards FIL, not the fact she’s actually had the beer. (But to reiterate, your FIL’s a dick)

I wouldve spoken up then and he wouldnt be allowed unsupervised with the child or even around the child. There’s no point in sweeping things under the rug. Its not safe for the child. People take advantage when they see you’re a new mom. If the baby would “accidentally” end up drunk and cps found out about it, you can lose your child. Everything falls back on the parents and if they allowed it to happen.

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