Should your partner/father of the baby help you clean your vomit when you've been sick?

No absolutely not I’d not like to clean my husbands vomit I just couldn’t do it myself Xx

Yes my husband always help me in this situation because i have HG very severe nausea and vomiting He always be with my side Most of the time when i become sick,he is doing everything and told me not to do because its not my fault He understands me and my situation very well

Absolutely! Wtf? If my hubby was unwell and puked up I’d help him clean it and visa versa. That’s so weird and uncaring that he wouldn’t. Sorry he’s like that.

I don't think I could clean up someone else's other than my children's

Personally I don’t think I’d like to clean up anyone else’s sick bar my kids x

Ive thrown up every day from week 5 to now (24), and my boyfriend has got a lot better with time at helping me clean up. The toilet lid was closed last week and he propped me over the bath while he cleaned it up. Last night his poor in-laws helped in their bathroom. He did struggle at the start but he didnt have a choice but to get used to it i throw up every day😂

Depends how he is around it. It doesn’t make him a bad person for not lol. I wouldn’t be able to clean up anyone else’s, I struggle to clean up my daughters, genuinely! He has helped me clean up but really struggled with it bless him. I wouldn’t hold it against him if he didn’t want to help!

Mine 100% would. It depends why I was sick, if it was morning sickness I would probs do it myself as I don't feel "unwell" if I had a vomiting bug and felt lousy he would definitely clean it up and I must say I would probably expect him to. (A caviat is that we are both medical and sick does not bother us, if he really didn't like it I wouldn't expect him to clean it up, but also he shouldn't expect it to be cleaned up right away)

I wouldn't expect mine to at all and he wouldn't expect me to clean his up either. The smell of anyone else's sick makes us both want to throw up even more anyway

My partners constantly been helping me clean up after throwing up, had the worst sickness and he was constantly by my side everytime I’ve been sick! I don’t expect him too but it helps so much when you’re feeling awful x

That doesn’t bode well for nappy changes “it’s not my 💩 so I’m not helping”

Myself and my boyfriend always have for eachother no questions asked x

My partner always cleans up mine, he did it a lot when I was in the first trimester. I can’t return the favour tho as i would throw up myself by smelling it. He understands though. I’m a carer so if one of the residents was sick I’d have to clean it up, but I’d probably ask a colleague to help as I really struggle with sick

I honestly can’t clean up anyone else’s but my kids,,,unless I really have too. That being said - I would give my husband the supplies, the tips, and be near for moral support - but if he’s well enough to clean it, he would have to lol

I feel like if it was the other way around he wouldn’t even have to ask you to clean it. Might be a woman thing which SUCKS but I feel like I will do so much for my husband with no hesitation and he picks and chooses what he wants to do! Did u end up cleaning it??

I must admit my husband was amazing during first trimester, even when I would say dont come in it's awful he would still come in and help me which I really appreciated as it couldnt of been nice 🙂 x

Some people are squeamish, i don’t think it’s unusual

My other half 100% would clean mine and has. There's nothing worse than cleaning sick after you've been sick, makes you sick again 😒

My husband cleaned my sick for me. I’d get a random friend or not close family member not wanting to but actually concerned how many of you think a partner shouldn’t have to do this! Once you have thrown up you are not magically going to feel better instantly. Yes it may be unpleasant but if they are that squeamish how will they deal with birth, nappies, blood when kids have accidents etc. you are the one going through all pregnancy unpleasantness compared to that manning up and dealing with a bit of sick is nothing

Team effort, if you are ill or pregnant.

I don't expect anyone other than my parents when I was a child to clean up after me if I was sick. I gag so hard at other people's vomit that it can make me sick and I assume that's how it is for everyone. Is it absolutely amazing and wonderful if he does help clean up, yes, but it's not an expectation.

@Catherine people vomit by accident, not out of irresponsibility. And sometimes someone is too sick to clean their own vomit. If you’re well enough to clean it you can, if you’re not, you need help. When I was laboring at home, my partner cleaned my vomit because I literally could not. It would have been insane for him to expect me to—I simply wasn’t able.

I wouldn’t expect my partner to clean up my vomit but would really appreciate it if he was comfortable enough to help clean it up. But no definitely wouldn’t expect it

I feel like any caring partners would help their other half of they'd had any kind of "accident" whether I'd expect it or not is a different matter. I know I'd clean up if my partner/husband was unwell and I'm sure he would for me too.

Lmao definitely not. I wouldn’t expect him to, I wouldn’t clean his up either! Pregnancy isn’t a disability & women need to stop feeling so entitled to being pandered to and expecting people to run around after them 🥴

No only bc I don’t do vomit, and I would definitely tell my partner to clean his own vomit if he was sick 🫠

I absolutely would NOT expect someone else to clean I my sick. Pregnant or not!

I wouldn’t clean up my partner’s vomit, and wouldn’t expect him to do it either. Only person I would do it for is my child.

I think theres a difference between EXPECTING him to do it, and just appreciating him CHOOSING to help you out. Thats where this debate is stemming from. My boyfriend leaves me to it most of the time as ive had 6 months of vomiting daily. But the few times its been really bad and hes come in to help me out ive appreciated it. Hes never said ew no thats your job, he wants to help his pregnant partner out. Same as ive never thrown up and expected him to do it. I just thank him when he does. Its give and take, a team effort. Pregnant or not.

I've cleaned my partner's sick on a couple of occasions, he wouldn't do the same. Big nose and weak stomach I don't think that it's unreasonable to expect though

@Gabriella I agree with this one because my partner is amazing with stuff like that, but I couldn’t clean someone’s vomit x

I’m really grateful for my husband given all these responses 🤣

Your partner should be there to help you every part of the way, no matter what. They’re your partner. My boyfriend has helped me so much he’s cleaned up my vomit and sometimes when I throw up to hard I unfortunately pee myself bc I can’t hold it and he has helped me get to the rr to take a shower and get cleaned up.

I would absolutely never expect someone to clean up my sick. Partner or not! Expecting that of someone is just wrong in my personal opinion. I clean my partners sick when he’s unwell but that’s my own decision and he does the same but I certainly would never expect him to do it. Im a grown woman if I miss the toilet or bucket then it’s my problem to solve.

Don't expect it, but it's nice when they do.

No, you should NOT be expecting it. It's your vomit. You're a grown woman. I assume you're not disabled. If he gets sick and starts throwing up are you about to clean it up? Pregnancy is not a disability and no one should have to clean up someone else's body fluids (with the exception of doing it for your sick children)

I would not expect someone else to clean up my vomit unless I was really, really sick and unable to. I would expect the same the other way around too

Perhaps explain to him the issues for you and propose that you clean up together so that neither of you are dealing with the smell for any longer than necessary? (Gentle reminder that so far his contribution to the baby really is the fun part may help or harm your case) Also may be worth seeing if there's anything you and your partner can use as an ad hoc mask to reduce how much of the smell is getting into your noses?

Personally no I think that’s on the adult who threw up I would never expect someone to clean up after me now that I’m grown and have children

Nahhh not bodily functions - that’s gross. When you’re physically unable someday then absolutely. I cant even see someone gag without starting to gag myself. Even seeing my baby vomit is a lot for me and it’s only ever been milk. There’s no world in which im cleaning my husband’s vomit if he’s physically capable. Gross gross gross just clean it yourself and stop cleaning up his if you’ve been doing that.

Ew no, I wouldn’t want my partner to 😅

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