Is it a big deal if your babysitter sends heart emoji’s with her texts to your hubby?

Hi ladies Our babysitter is 25 years old and is a family friend’s daughter I have used for the last 3 years. We’ve supported her and our kids like her including my hubby cause he thinks she wonderful with the kids. Now my husband and I text her when we need her to work or anything related to the kids. But I’ve noticed she does generally send heart emojis with her texts but it’s like every text she sends my husband has heart emojis. He has shared his passcode with me as well. My question is would it bother you or would you find it inappropriate she does so or would you think she’s just fond of all of us including my husband. I spoke to my mom and she said I should not tell her because it will come off as me being insecure and that’s how rumors start. But my mom suggested I just find another sitter cause she’s so familiar with us, she knows my weaknesses, is too comfortable with us cause she sometimes asks for salary advances etc, knows everything and she feels like who knows how young girls can act? Also I guess my mom feels like with my hubby giving our sitter a $500 bonus is abit too much. How would you handle this? Thanks ladies.

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I agree with mom 100%!!!

That’s a great bonus for a sitter but ok …. You have his password so you can see the messages …. Are they appropriate?

it depends what the messages are saying with the hearts.

The most important questions are- Is she a good babysitter overall? Does she do a good job? Do your kids like her? Emojis are pretty harmless in my opinion. $500 might a large bonus but that was your husband’s decision, not hers. I would give your sitter the benefit of the doubt and not jump to conclusions about her intentions. Signed, A former nanny

@Neveah nothing special with the messages. Just regular communication but it send with her adding red heart emojis.

@Tracee no they’re not inappropriate. I think my mom just feels like she’s become too comfortable with us. She’s great with the kids but my mom feels like who knows 3 years from now. It’s just going to be hard finding a reliable sitter but my mom’s words also haunt me cause sometimes older women have a lot of wisdom.

I do think it’s inappropriate but wouldn’t say anything, your mom is right. And if your hubby shared his passcode it’s good he has nothing to hide. I would keep one eye open but I understand not wanting to find somebody new cause trusting someone around your kids who is reliable and knows your family is very hard to find.

Does she send you heart emojis too? I mean young people use a lot of emojis. I would find it weird if she never sent you heart emojis but only your man. I think it's weird for her to ask for salary advances more than once or twice. How often does she ask for this and how much? It's normal to raise the salary maybe yearly especially if you are trying to keep a good sitter but if she makes you feel uncomfortable in any way, it's not worth ur sanity

@Bri (I don't see waves) That’s a great idea

@Bri (I don't see waves) a group text would solve this easily!! Great idea

@Janae Agreed

This drives me crazy. Girls are like this nowadays. It’s really weird. I have had similar conversations with my husband about work friends that are women who are young/act young. There’s no boundaries in relationships anymore. $500 seems like a solid bonus for a full time nanny. As a full time nanny I got $700 as my yearly bonus and that was about 10 years ago but the family was WELL off. That was one week of my pay. So I think it depends on how much she is regularly paid etc. Agree with a group chat. And idk salary advances are weird for a nanny situation. It’s a new year. Lay down the groundwork for how many times a year you’re willing to do it. She needs to handle her money or find a job that has a different earning structure if she needs advances

Whoop that girl that's what I would do tell her don't come back

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