Baby boy won’t sleep without me

Hey all,

My little boy is 4 and a half months old, I’m a first time mam and I’m just winging every ounce of motherhood at this point😂😫

He used to sleep so well in his next to me, but the last few weeks I do our bedtime routine, he falls asleep and I try to put him in his next to me. BUT EVERY SINGLE TIME HE TOUCHES THE MATTRESS HIS EYES SPRING BACK OPEN😂 the only way he will sleep is if he is on me, which is absolutely fine with me, but I’ve had a grand total of about 2 hours sleep each night.

He falls asleep for around 30 minutes then wakes up crying and kicking his legs etc.

Does anyone have any advice on what I can do to help him sleep or is this something we have to just roll with 😂😫

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Girl I’ve been doing that for 14 months idk what to do either.

It’s literally a nightmare isn’t it 😫 I feel awful trying to put him down but I just need sleep 😂😫

5 1/2 months and same thing but one day I found out that she really loves to sleep with her fuzzy small blanket . I KNOW BABIES SHOULDN’T SLEEP WITH A BLANKET 😂 sooo what I did is placed the blanket on the matress like her normal sheet and just have one loose end that she can grab and rub her face (no, she doesn’t have her face covered with that) and it works GREAT! We are using it as a sleep training technique and she’s being able to fall asleep on her own with that 😳. Maybe there’s something your baby likes and you can use ?

Also, she keeps waking up after 30 min and cries but instead of picking her up I just give her the paci and the end of the blanket and that’s it. We still have a lot of wakings and it doesn’t always work but it helps most of the time ❤️

Thank you so much lovely I’m going to try this with his blanket! I never even thought of that! Xx

Hello!! Sleep consultant here! Use a swaddle! Put it on after he goes to sleep. ;)

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