How are you finding time to game?

Since giving birth 4 months ago I've found it impossible to get any gaming time in.
I take care of baby all day and when my husband finishes work he makes dinner and then we start to get baby down at 7 and he's asleep by 8. I usually just stay in bed and scroll Instagram for an hour before I fall asleep and my husband goes and games until about 11pm.

My little boy contact naps so no time there. I could try stay up when he's gone to back but I'm always exhausted by 8pm so just decide to go to bed.

Weekends are an option but that usually involves catching up on housework. I also exclusively breastfeed every 2 hours roughly.

I just cant find the time šŸ˜… I miss Baldurs Gate

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I didn’t really find the time until my daughter was a bit older, it got easier about 1.5 years old (she’s 2yrs 4 months now). Not much help, I know! Honestly, it just depends on whether you have the energy to sit at the PC/console after putting the little one down

Though I’m being terrible and playing BG3/Overwatch/7dtd till like midnight at the moment, so I’m dead when daughter wakes up šŸ˜‚

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We used to have really rough nights so would split them between us but luckily she would sleep contact napping on our arms and you could just about use the controller while she slept if the sound was off and the light off in the living room lol.

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4-month old here, too! Does he sleep well in a carrier? If so, you might be able to pull off using the PC! I’ve been able to sneak some Sims time that way. Also my husband and I play Don’t Starve Together on console after getting both kiddies down at night, even while holding our littlest. I was in the same no-gaming slump for a bit, too, but found that playing with the hubs brought me out of it.

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Like Ellen says, I didn’t find the time until my little one was older (about 10-12 months for me). I would play on my switch while she contact napped but that was only about 30 mins every now and again. It’s really tough! My partner was a lot less exhausted than me as he didn’t have to breast feed and I was so jealous of his freedom šŸ˜‚šŸ«£

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Steam deck is a game changer because you can play In bed

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We would take it in turn or I’d sit with her in my arms and game. From about 6 months she had a pretty set routine so was in bed and asleep by 8pm so we do night time gaming

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When mine little human was small, we just gamed whilst he contact napped in the carrier. We also moved to games that you could easily pause, just in case. Now my humans is 4 months old and is in bed by 6:30 so we get a good session during the night!

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I've got a 4 year old and only last year got back into gaming, now she sits and watches me šŸ˜…

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are the buttons quiet? Would be cool if they were. I'm just thinking as using the switch wakes her up šŸ˜‚

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We've literally just started back gaming this week when my son goes to bed at 7pm (hes 8 months next week), we've not had the time to play since he was born (although we do regularly go to small lans/insomnia so have had a few weekends gaming at those!) It's nice to have a break šŸ˜‚

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Have you tried playing Baldurs Gate split screen together? That’s how we did our first play through and it was so much fun. Maybe you could just do it for an hour instead of being on Instagram? (Asking hopefully as it’s something I’m a bit worried about for the future)

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Came to find this answer, my baby is 4 weeks old and already I'm frustrated not getting any gaming time, this thread does not feel me with hope šŸ™ˆšŸ™ˆ

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(2MO) I think handheld consoles are the way forward at first. Can be done with contact naps or in bed No chance of PC gaming but hoping in a few months time we can put her down with a baby monitor and get a couple of hours in the evening.
Also just a thought - white noise machine might help for any clicking or other gaming noises around baby

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With my LG, when she was that age I used to just game with her on my lap. I gave her an older controller which she played with. She loved it. She’s now 14 months and I can tell she’s going to be a little gamer too, she still loves to sit with me and her dad and ā€œgameā€ with us 🄰 you can make it a fun experience for them too

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Also, if you’re a pc gamer (I’m Xbox, my partner is pc), he bought our girl a seat that attaches to his desk, she loved chilling in it beside him when he played, sadly she’s too big for it now

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I didn’t find time to game until my daughter was 1 and was in a good routine. When she dropped to one nap her bedtime became much more reasonable which gave my husband and I time together.

4 - 5 months was definitely the hardest age for me in terms of getting any downtime. It’s a very intense age. Just know it’ll pass šŸ’•

Our daughter just turned 2 and we usually find a couple of hours every evening to game - it gets so much better I promise

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I haven't been able to play once. I tried having a go one time while he slept on me but it just didn't work. I had so many games kn the go before he was born too. Hopefully when he starts to sleep more during the evening

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