Postpartum depression maybe? 😭😩🙃

Ugh I really need to vent. 😩 I love my kids to death would do anything for them and I love my husband but I feel like I’m lowkey depressed. I just had my second 6 months ago and I also have a 17 month old. My husband is military and we’re currently living inside the base which we just moved into about a month ago. Love the house, neighborhood seems nice and feel safe here. I just feel sad I do the same thing everyday. I worked a part time job at a restaurant but there barely scheduling me just my husband’s hours got changed from days to evenings. He leaves work around 2:30 pm and doesn’t get home till 11:15 at night sometimes even later. The hours between 4-7 are the hardest with my kids 😭🫠 then after I put my oldest to bed between 7:45 or 8 pm I have a big mess to clean in the kitchen. Did I mention I have no friends, my and husbands family is 20 hours away, we also have 1 car which my husband takes to work everyday so even if I wanted to go meet up with another mom to have a playdate I can’t because we don’t have another car. I just feel stuck inside my house 24/7 and the only time I leave is to go grocery shopping or the occasional shift on the weekend if my job decides to put me on the schedule or not. My doctor prescribed me anti depressants but I admit I haven’t been adamant about taking them. I just forget honestly. Debating on maybe I should talk to someone but if I had friends I wouldn’t be so depressed 😭🥲 I use to be so happy and lively now I just feel lonely. During the mornings before my husband has to go to work we barely have time to really go out and do anything with the kids because time flies by and by the time you know it’s already time for him to go to work. I just wish I had friends 😭 and a second car because I’m a sahm who hates being at home. I’d love to take my sons to a indoor playground but I have no car so I’m stuck here 🙃

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First off I’m so so sorry you’re feeling this way, but so many women go through this. After reading all you said, I really do think getting out of the house would help A LOT. Is another car out of the question financially? Could hubby carpool with someone so you can have the car a couple days a week? Is anything in walking distance? Sorry for all the questions, just trying to help ☺️

girl. same. but just with one kid.

TIME OUTSIDE!! Hi mom, you sound overwhelmed, and motherhood is a bit a isolating… it’s hard to make friends when there is so little time during the day. I feel the same way. Me and my husband work from home, the 3 of us spend all day in the same space because we live in an apt. By 5 pm I feel the worst, so we go outside and things get better. My 2 yo has a balance bike he loves to ride so off we go! Going outside the house is key to keep everybody’s sanity in place. Take snacks with you, toys and whereever your kids want to stop, just stop, lay something on the grass, sit and look at the sky, take a moment for yourself. Find a hobbie, something you can start and finish. I started doing bracelets for example, 20 minutes I finish one and feel so happy, it’s a moment for myself, then I ship it to my fam so they tell me they like it LOL ALSO, you can register at 7cups, it’s a chat where other normal people listen. There is always someone on the other side!!

@Brittany no unfortunately we can’t afford another car. The car we do have it literally on it last leg. I give it maybe 2 years if that 🫠😭 We have a playground outside my backyard but honestly I kinda have anxiety to go. I have a crazy toddler and don’t want him running off and then have an infant attached with me to the hip and if I’m feeding him I also wanna keep eyes on my toddler. I know I should make it a priority to go outside more even if it is to the playground I guess it just makes me nervous 😬 I wish we had another car so I could take them to a indoor playground instead! Also no nothing is walking distance here we live in Oklahoma. 🙃

@Erin I’m glad I’m not alone 😭 I wish we lived closer! I love motherhood but it’s also very isolating. Another car and a friend or two would make me feel better ugh.

@Angelina we have a playground outside the backyard it just gives me anxiety to go. Maybe I can try and encourage myself to go with my 2 boys. I’ll have to go right when there both done feeding so I can watch my toddler and my infant can be calm. Thank you for the advice 🥲 I just wish we could afford another car and have some friends

message me girly. i don’t mind long distance buds ♥️😌