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My 10 month old has been good about sleeping since she was about 5 weeks old and started sleeping in her own room at about 5 months old. The last 3 weeks she has suddenly decided she absolutely will not sleep in her own room or even her own bed if we set up the pack n play next to our bed. She will only sleep on top of me. She has also became extremely clingy and freaks out anytime she isn’t on top of me during the day. She has to be on and touching me at all times which causes me to be extremely over stimulated. Don’t get me wrong I love the cuddles but a lot of it isn’t cuddles, it’s just climbing and pulling on my hair and face and hitting. Any tips? Anybody else going through this?

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My 9 month old is doing the same thing

Same here. Our ped had warned us it might happen around this age, apparently a phase of separation anxiety but I’m not sure it will end😅

I really feel like it’s never going to end. It’s been 3 weeks and it just seems to be getting worse. I am going absolutely crazy between constantly having someone on me and the lack of sleep it is mentally and physically draining when you’re home with them 24/7.

Going through this now. My little guy is SO clingy and he cries whenever he’s not touching me or being held by me. My daughter (now 2.5) wasn’t really ever THIS intense about her separation anxiety, so I’m not familiar with it. Baby boy feels like he’s trying to burrow into my flesh.

yes! I literally tell her all the time that she can’t get any closer to me and there’s no possible way she’s going to fit back in my belly so she’s gonna have to settle with sitting in my lap

There's a huge leap and regression from 9 months where separation anxiety is a key factor in how they act I promise as someone who's now out the other side it does end and does get better. My son's never been impacted by any regression but this one got us and got us hard it took 6 weeks to get back to normal and now it's like nothing happened except he's a lot more independent and wants to play by himself and will tell me when he needs me

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I'm open to anything else to start teaching him to read and write. He's 3!

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Been together more than 10 years, but it's been a while since he even seemed remotely interested in me getting on my knees, or vice versa so to speak. I think it was once last year. Must be something I am doing wrong 🤔. Generally everything else in that department is great and we have two young kids with no extra support, so it's quite surprising we can't keep our hands off each other but may need to try new things. It's basically 2 positions each time with some foreplay.

I think Motherhood has made me more bitter than I realized…

This is such a ramble but I don’t know where else to put it all.

I’m four months in and I don’t really have hobbies right now. I don’t do anything for myself except maybe doomscrolling or listening to a podcast while I breastfeed my baby. I used to craft and have game nights with friends. Activities that usually are at least 2 hour stretches. Now if I have an hour free my mind immediately goes to baby, or doing something in the house for baby.

And I thought I didn’t mind. Like I knew postpartum could be very mentally consuming. But I think it’s altering how I view people around me and it’s prodding at my relationship with my husband.

He spends most of his time making food for us, looking after our dogs, playing with the baby, ect. But he still has time for his hobby. Spends maybe an hour a night on it. Even adapted to using a bot for shopping for his hobby after a certain incident where we had to have a heart to heart after he left me home alone with the baby for hours during a busy workday (I work from home) to shop for his hobby.

And yet there’s like this little green eyed monster in me that rages every time I know he’s running off to start up the bot. Even though I’m the reason he does it this way.

We took a family trip last weekend to see his best friend and their kids and let them meet the baby. He brought the laptop. He’s always brought a laptop on trips and it’s never been a problem to me before. But one night we both woke up while the baby was still asleep, and he wandered out of the room. I tried to fall back asleep but couldn’t. So I went to the kitchen to try having something warm to drink to settle me. And he was there at the table running the bot from his laptop. I flipped out at him. But there really wasn’t reason to. It’s not like I needed help with the baby and he was ignoring me. He wasn’t avoiding our friends. He was just awake and unable to sleep and found something to do with his time. Yet my snap reaction was “why the hell would you do this on a family trip?”

I don’t know what it is. Maybe it’s the less complete sleep from baby’s middle of the night feed? My brain being just consumed by baby? Maybe I’m not as over that shopping incident as I thought? But I’m just so annoyed at his hobby right now. The green eyed monster thinks “you could be using that time differently” but realistically to do what exactly??? Stare at our baby in the dark???

I spent probably an hour apologizing to him after I snapped. And he’s of course hurt and frustrated because I said some very mean things in the moment.

I don’t want to be this jealous, angry person. But I also don’t know how to find time for myself in this right now outside of basic hygiene. It’s like I’ve forgotten how to be myself, even if just for an hour.

Maybe I need a therapist.

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