Spouse
My husband and I have been having a lot of fall outs the past few months were it has gotten really bad he is calling me outside my name and all. I am a sahm he say I don’t do enough that I’m a bad mom and wife how should I go about this? I want my marriage to work? Ever since our daughter was born our marriage had changed so much. My husband was a stoner and he stopped smoking since my daughter was born
I feel like the stress of being new parents can cause this issue with lots of couples, myself included. I also feel like men often don’t understand the amount of work women do or how their responses to stress affect us. But conflict is inevitable and it’s an opportunity for both of you to learn, esp about what kind of parents you want to be. Counseling can help guide you both through that and give you tools to manage stress and communicate better, even if he won’t go and it’s just you. For example, “when you do __, it makes me feel __, and next time could you do __ instead,” and other tools. It helps to identify triggers for the fights to diffuse them/pause before they get too big. You can try to work through it yourself with journaling, etc, but no shame in getting professional help when you need it. Safety for you and baby first though.