MIL old lady negligence
My mother in law was watching our 3 month old for the day. I needed to have a outpatient procedure done and wanted my husband with me. It was 6 hours with drive time. We came back to pick him up and he was sleeping. I started collecting his things and I saw some weird stuff in his bottle. I ask her what was going on and she said she fed him a cereal bottle because he wouldn’t stop getting hungry. I asked her where she even found the cereal and she said she had my FIL buy some and drop it off. She said she did it with her boys around this age. I cut her off mid sentence and flew into a frenzy like a feral fucking cat or something. I was half drugged still, uncomfortable, betrayed, anxious for my baby… and said some nasty things to her and made some threats about her privileges with our family.
This was 3 weeks ago and she wants to see my baby again. She keeps calling my husband and hasn’t spoke to me. I told him no. I need an apology first and she doesn’t think she didn’t anything wrong. What exactly is the move here? I am going to stand my ground but at what point can she see my baby again? Like Christmas? Birthday? Lol. Idk how to make her understand. It would be different if I got an apology. I know I said some nasty thing but how can I trust her? She was mixing my breast milk with goats milk formula. You aren’t even supposed to mix cereal and breast milk. I’m just fucked up about it.