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My almost 4 month old won’t stay sleep when put in her bassinet. She still gets her startle reflexes, so she’s swaddled, she’s been fed, bathed.. we’re doing our routine. But once I’m done rocking her, she’s bugged eyed once placed in the bassinet. I don’t know what to do. I’ve tried softer sheets, I’ve tried soothing her back to sleep but nothing helps. I usually end up forfeiting sleep so she can sleep in my arms but I can’t do that every night.
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Are 4 month olds supposed to be swaddled still? I have an almost 4 month old and I’ve switched to sleep sacks. They seem to help, my baby also outgrow the bassinet and is in a crib (well sometimes lol she has been Extra clingy lately) but a heating pad on the mattress to warm it up and then remove it right before placing the baby down :)

@Serina she’s still swaddled bc of her reflexes constantly waking her. Her pediatrician hasn’t said anything about it being a bad thing so we’re just rocking and rolling.

Aah i see. Mine startles herself awake often too, lol it’s cute but exhausting for us mammas 💗

I co-sleep 🤷🏽‍♀️ America is the only country that doesn’t recommend it but I think babies falling asleep in the arms are a bit dangerous. They make bassinets that go right into your bed also.

My baby is 4 months she sleeps 830-930 (depending) until 10AM

@Bina I don’t fall asleep with her. Usually I’m up reading until it’s time for her dad to be up and he allows me to sleep while they get time together. I have that bassinet lol. She just hasn’t liked it for a while now.

Not sure this applies to your situation but Sometimes the startles and little cries does not mean they’re fully awake but in active sleep….I would also just give them a moment to put themselves back to sleep without intervening immediately…

@Bina I also co-sleep with my baby when she would wake up. I found the shusher helped a lot. I got her used to it from the day she got home and whenever she would wake up, I would shush her back to sleep. Doesn't last more than an hr but definitely something that helped. She's now 6 mths and still gets help sleeping with the shusher.

@Bonnie yes you gotta do what works! Every baby isn’t unique. when she use to wake up through the night I would rock the bed by moving my legs up and down or get very close to her and talk/comfort her back to sleep.

@Anissa oh dang! lol I know co-sleeping isn’t for everyone but I believe it builds security in a way.

@Bina honestly I would LOVE to co sleep but my husband is scared. My twin sis has done it for both kids and loves it

@Anissa Yeah if he is someone who moves a lot in the bed I would say don’t risk it…. but I don’t even have to be close to her now while we up still or watching her sleep

@Bina he doesn’t 🤦🏽‍♀️ man be stiff as a board. How long do you plan on co sleeping?

You can still swaddle. You just have to change when they start to show signs of rolling. But they are gonna continue to have those reflex’s until you stop swaddling. They have to learn how to handle them. So whenever you do stop it’ll be a little bit of learning time before they don’t startle themselves anymore

@Anissa I will probably do it until she’s 1-2 years honestly…I did some research and other countries do it until teen years! Haha I’m not saying that’s what I’ll do but I’m saying there’s no right answer it appears. But I do believe American society fosters an individualistic culture that makes people divided… but that’s another convo for another time.

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My husband works over nights so I could co sleep with my son but do I just lay him in bed with me or is there a certain way to do it?

Try moving her to a crib or pack and play. My son was the same way and I moved him over to a pack and play at 2 months and a crib at three months, he now sleeps through the night for the most part.

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