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I would let his new gf know but nobody else. Message her on social media like “ hope you’re having fun just so ya know he has 4 kids with a bunch of women who he asked them to abort at the last minute pretty much including me, & then ghosts them, so hope you know what you’re getting into & are prepared for. Bye
Honestly, I would tell his family. Not to be petty or anything, but because they’re the baby’s family. However, if you don’t particularly like his family or if they suck eggs, then don’t tell them
I would tell them only if I want them involved in the baby’s life I don’t think it’s bitter, they are family too and should know if you want them too
@Marie I absolutely do not agree with this. This sounds so much like a bitter ex. Also, "who he asked THEM to abort at the last minute" - how are you certain the same scenario happened with others? Sounds incredibly childish to me
I think at the end of the day it's up to you if you want his family involved or him involved. If you tell them, they'll tell him, and you'll have to deal with him. I personally wouldn't bother. Don't contact him, don't contact his family, and absolutely do NOT contact his girlfriend. Wash your hands and be done
Personally I’d take the high road let him live his best life karma catches everyone your time will come once your hold your baby nothing else will matters there will be amazing days and difficult days but that’s the journey! However families and exes can be spiteful so document everything keep all conversations just in case you need it there are lots of assistance you can apply for APPLY ASAP! Cover yourself and stay ready so you won’t have to get ready! And live your life being a mom is a beautiful life changing roller coaster of a journey and you’ll love every second of it even when it gets tuff your not alone because you have all of us here some can relate some can’t but we call all sympathize and most of us were young first time moms😊we’re strong you got this just one day at a time
If I met a guy who had 3 kids with 3 different baby mamas… I’d run and think many women would do the same. He may be living his best life now but not forever. You said you’ve been trying to grow closer to God. Pray for guidance on this matter and ask God for a clear sign of what to do. It also really depends on how well you know his family. If you’re close to them I would tell them but if not it could make you look like a desperate ex while he’s off having fun.
Personally I would tell his family. They might want to be fully involved in their grand child’s life. If not then that’s on them but at least they can’t say you didn’t tell them xx
I would say let them know just because he doesn't want to be there doesn't mean his family doesn't and your child deserve to know his other side and put his bum ass on child support I hate guys I swear well the ones that are trash 🗑
i mean if you’ve met the family or at least know a little about them then i guess it depends. are they involved in the other kids lives? are they spiteful/bitter to the baby mamas or are they harder on your ex? personally i wouldn’t want my little to grow up without his other side of the family, but if its too toxic then definitely not. either way if you put your ex’s name on the birth certificate and go for child support, then your ex will still in someway be involved in your lives and by extension his family will be too.
@Kimberly Dana I did , didn’t even tell him about the birth. Rather go the peaceful route , Thank You 🤍
@Jada Thankyou so much. I definitely did. I didn’t even let him know about the birth. I gave birth recently & you’re 100% right. I love my son so much I’m not even concerned about him in the slightest way. Thankyou for the reassurance and non judgement 🥹💘. I’m honestly leaving it all to God. I did apply for everything as well & it’s been going great !
You’re so welcome I’m happy everything is working out for you❤️
Are his parents involved in the lives of his other children? If they are they’re likely to want to be involved in this ones (and you’d want them involved) then tell them. If not and you’d rather have a clean break from him and everything related to him then don’t tell them.