Haha! 😂 reading this thinking “oh did I write this” lol I’m SAHM, I do Mon-Friday all day and night wake up (partner does bedtime routine). Which during the week is great. Gets to a weekend, my partner will stay up till 1am (I’ll still see to baby if he wakes up) and then partner will stay in bed till 10am. 😕 I would suggest maybe parent B shadowing parent A on what they’re doing to settle baby. Parent B just needs to keep at it, and parent A to try and take a step back. ♥️ it’s hard when baby isn’t settling. Xx
I didn’t want to be accusatory but we all know who is who in this scenario 😂 My husband *can* settle little one and has just put him down for a nap. He is generally really proactive with little one so I really can’t criticise him at all (hence not wanting to be accusatory etc). He can settle him in the night too, I usually have to rock/sway/hold him for anything up to 40 mins for him to go back to sleep enough to go into cot sometimes but the first day I was back at work, husband tried for 15 mins after feeding him and came to get me because “he wasn’t settling”. He loses patience quickly for it in the night and if little one isn’t settling, he gives up, puts LO down in cot, and I’ll go to settle him. It just feels frustrating, especially when I feel so grateful for him going to little one, I get all comfy and try to go back to sleep, only to be woken 10 mins later and have to go to him anyway, might as well have gone in the first place. Glad I’m not the only one though ☺️
Parent B needs to get a job lol. ASAP.
And I say that simply because parent A is mom and probably is the only parent who can settle the baby at times
@Jade my husband is amazing with little one and works so hard as an employee and as Dad. I wasn’t criticising him at all, he steps up when needed and even when not needed, he’s a mostly equal partner in this parenting journey. I was just airing my frustration at being woken up and his slight lack of patience when it comes to little one’s sleep. Thankfully LO’s sleep was better last night.
It sounds like parent B needs to have/ do more nights, so that they can practice learning how to settle the baby. Otherwise the responsibility will always fall on parent A. Also, parent B getting to stay in bed because of this is unfair.