Off work with sick toddler feels constant!

So I only started my job in September and my daughter started nursery the same time she goes in when I work. She's obviously been sick frequently since starting nursery and she's ill again so I've had to pre warn my manager that I may have to be off Thursday, Friday as its potentially hand foot and mouth it's going round the nursery atm!

I feel like a useless bloody employee being off but she is my priority and I can't work from home I work in a care home! I'd love to give up work but I can't afford to 😩😩

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I’m looking to work from home for this reason… I’m already looking at other jobs because I’m so so worried I suffer really bad with a weak immune system so I’m a lil worried for my baby if they suffer too and if work are as bad as they are now im worried that I won’t be able to collect my child as they won’t let me leave

I work from home, I could not do my job while my LO was at home . If your kids are older and don't need constant supervision then it's a possibility.
Don't worry about work, they surely understand that kids get sick at nursery and working in a care home they couldn't want you "bringing it" in there either!

I work at maccies and they rlly aren’t the most understanding

@Jai you'd think she would be understanding as she even has a grown up son but nope and I do get it in some ways you need to be reliable however my child comes before work! And I'm good at what I do so hoping that makes up for it in some ways 🙏🏼

hi i work as a support worker so i work in a care home and i’m struggling too currently as i have bad morning sickness and they see it as me being lazy and not wanting to come in but i genuinely can’t stand up sometimes after being sick it’s so annoying and for this reason i might start working from home

Same here. Started my job Novemeber I now have a 18 month old and I’m pregnant again. Was off for flu&tonsillitis for two weeks as that on top of first trimester I was very ill; went in last week and yesterday but off again today as my toddler is sick with a high temp so can’t go to childminders. I feel useless and like I may as well not work and worried work are annoyed at me. Genuinely don’t know what to do at this point as I’ve had so many days off with sick toddler and husband can’t take her as without his job we wouldn’t be able to pay for things. I just hate it’s my job getting the brunt of it all but can’t be helped if my toddlers sick :(

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