If you Google what benefits can I get there is a gov website that comes up which you input your details and it will tell you what you can get
@Kirsty Yes I do already get that and my daughter has got her name down to start nursery in September with the 15 hours funding. It is so tough, feel awful as every morning is just spent with her crying for my attention, and then have my boss messaging me with more work to complete. Just feels impossible to do both now 😩
@Kirsty thank you I will have a look at the Gov website!
Have you looked into tax free childcare before the free hours kick in? It definitely helps a bit. I think unfortunately your husband will be classed as a higher earner therefore the help just isn't there.
@Kirsty no I haven’t, I just assumed as we both worked that we wouldn’t be entitled to any help so I never looked it up! Thank you I will have a look! I know we are in a much better situation than some will be as he earns a decent wage, but it’s crazy how little it actually goes with the prices of mortgages and things these days! Thanks for the recommendation
You have to both be working to be entitled to it so it's one of the few benefits for working parents 😊 once the free hours kick in you can also use both together. Don't worry I totally get it, my husband is a higher earner so if I quit we'd be entitled to nothing too. We ended up selling my car and sharing his just to make ends meet when I first went back to work
Fyi - tax free childcare can also be used for school clubs and summer holiday clubs (when your baby gets there!) But I believe it can be used up until the child starts highschool
And don't feel guilty about what your husband earns. People forget that you don't get £40k a year. The more you earn, the more tax you pay. My husband just got a £3k bonus, sounds amazing, until you realise after tax we got £800. What a joke. Not turning my nose up at £800 but when he was given over three times that, it's infuriating.
I assume you already get child benefit? And from September (I know it's a while off) you will get the 15 hour funding. I think a lot of families, myself included, are trapped in that "can't afford to be a stay at home mum but also can't afford to work cycle" It's really tuff at the moment.