Overnight pressure

Has anyone else been pressured into dad having baby overnight when clearly LO isn’t ready? I’m sick of being guilt tripped

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It's a tough one. Baby will automatically be more bonded with you if he's living at home but dad's that want to be involved should be allowed. Little one just needs to develop a stronger bond with dad and it'll only happen by allowing him to spend time there even if at first he's not full happy about it. He'll get used to it :)
You both have rights and should be allowed to spend time with the little one as much as you both want.

🙋 ... My daughter was 2 years and 9 months when I was pressured and caved. But my son is only 6 months and I won't be pressured yet.. not sure how things will go as he ages.
I'm not sure what the obsession with overnight is.. you can have such a lovely bonding time with a child in the day. Nights are the worst! 😂 X

we live 4hrs away from dad so it’s hard for him to just take him for the day for example, we do weekends where I stay at his with our son or vice versa. I’m worried as baby co sleeps with me 😭

I'm not sure how to respond directly. I get the fear. He's your baby but if you trust dad and he will look after your son then I really recommend you at least try, it's only fair on dad.
Cosleeping will cause attachment issues which can be equally unhealthy so it'll be best for baby to get mummy time but to also understand that mummy gets space too

my son is nearly 15m and we co sleep that’s where my issues lie as he’s so dependant on me for sleep!! Exactly, I don’t get why the desperation it’s not like you can spend time with the child overnight if they’re asleep 🤷🏻‍♀️

it’s just because he’s never been without me overnight, only on 2 occasions so I’m very anxious. Dad has said he won’t co sleep. So what else will he do leave our son to cry? We live 4hrs away, I’m just very very anxious

My babies dad isn’t involved but she’s the same age and we co sleep for half the night. She’s having her first sleep over at my mums on Saturday which I’ve been putting off for months for the same reasons. If you message me so I know who you are I can let you know how it goes as she won’t be co sleeping with my mum x

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Can someone pls help i keep making this post and nobody is responding

My boyfriend booked a trip for us to go to mexico for a week as my push present. I have severe anxiety leaving my 7 month old with my mom. I know she will be in good hands but she’s exclusively breast fed for the most part but accepts bottles just fine. i have all my pumping parts packed and will pump when baby normally eats but i don’t want baby to forget me or have latch issues when i return!! any mommas ever experience this?

Postpartum

I’m only 3 days postpartum (FTM) and already have extremely bad anxiety. I’m crying every night, as I think of another night of no sleep. My baby will not settle in his cot, he cries every moment we put him down unless in his chair rocker. So me and my partner are having to alternate after 3/4 hours of being awake with him downstairs. I’m trying everything to get him to settle. It’s a load of overwhelming stress. I’m 23, I was desperate for a baby and now I have one and feel completely useless. I miss it just being me and my partner.

When does it get better?

I was crying on the phone with the perinatal mental health team today and the lovely lady, bless her, kept assuring me that it gets better. I kept telling her I hope so because people have been saying that since having my LO and it just feels like it keeps getting worse. She assured me it gets better....

Night time routine

Heya, my 3 week old daughter is currently exclusively breastfed and I’m not pumping. Can anyone recommend the best way to share the load with my partner? At the moment I’m doing all the feeds/burbs/settling and my partner is sleeping through which obviously isn’t sustainable, I’m trying to work out the best way to get him involved. Any advice very much appreciated!

Rant/WWYD

My sister (youngest, 24) has two kids, 4 & 1, and i (oldest, 30) just have my one who’s 6mo old right now, so i ask her for advice or call her to vent about things sometimes. Well im tired of her turning around and telling my other family members that I’m “losing my sh*t.” Literally have not lost my sh*t nor have i ever freaked out to her about my baby, i just call her to talk and tell her what stage my baby is in or talk through how im feeling, but she chooses to tell people that im like a complete nutcase or something which worries me that my family is going to start being judgmental about me as a mother or looking at me funny like I’m some fragile ticking time bomb.

What would you do in this situation? I’m already pretty much decided that I’ll stop telling her anything about my struggles, but I’m almost at the point where i feel like it should be confronted because she, of all people, should understand what I’m going through.

Rapid cool/ hot shot method

Sorry if this sound stupid but how are we doing the hot shot method?
Are we boiling the kettle and letting it cool a little before adding to hot flask? Then with the cool water do you boil the kettle and leave it to cool right down before putting into another flask?
My baby brain is fried trying to work out the easiest way!