Advice needed

So it appears that my 10 year relationship has come to an end, I feel upset, angry, frustrated. Our little one is 11 months old and I’m feeling guilty too, guilty for those family holidays we will miss, dinner times etc. We own a house together, what is the first steps I should take or do? He’s made it quite clear that I can leave but our boy can stay.. I’m still breast feeding, I don’t want to be away from my boy, the thought makes me feel so lost. Does anyone know how parental responsibility would work? The only think I would say is his father has that I don’t is lots of money and financial security I on the other hand have little but I don’t care too much as the materialistic things don’t matter to me I just want my son to be happy and ultimately me to be happy. I’m currently in bits and just don’t know what to do.

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So sorry to hear that, sending lots of love! I’m not sure on the advice in relation to parental responsibility but if he’s trying to say you can leave but your boy can stay, your his mum at the end of the day and he needs you in his life, it’s not about money - All a baby needs is love and care as long as they are safe 🤍

Well firstly I wouldn't that don't worry about the things you will miss as a family. Your boy seeing you both happy is better than miserable. Secondly, as the house is joint ownership don't leave. It is your home as well. Lastly, I would look to get some legal advice (there can be free ones online or solicitors can give certain time free) to see what you can and can't do/entitled to etc.

Sending lots of love to you, you will do good to deal with the situation.

I’m not really sure on what I would suggest but I think getting in contact with the Citizens Advice Bureau would be a good first step, they can then point you in the direction of legal aid and parental support. I agree that you shouldn’t leave the home as I think that can signify that you have left the family home when it comes to fighting for custody etc. If both your names are on the mortgage and you feel safe there (not abuse) then stand your ground. You’ll also want to get your finances in order, change your passwords, keep your important documents somewhere safe (another family member’s or best friend’s house). I’m so sorry you’re going through this, it must be incredibly tough to face. Sending you strength xx

Hello everyone thank you so much for all your kind comments and your advice, we’ve had a chat and we’ve managed to work it out, we both have too much to throw away and want to make things work! Xx