Guilt :(

Lately me and my partner have been arguing so much more because he has no consideration for my feelings and says a lot of hurtful things without thinking. He also doesn’t help at all with anything round the house im left to do the cooking cleaning washing etc and also care for his dog. All of this has been making me feel so depressed and I’ve been crying loads and I’m scared of the impact this is going to have on my baby, I’m 22 weeks :(
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Do you have any friend or relatives you could go spend some time with??? It’s not an easy job growing a baby inside of you, you need all the support you can get. Go spend some time with friends and family and see how you feel about that.

I would say show him how much you do for him and how much it is having an impact on you. Leave his washing cook for yourself and clean up only your stuff. Regarding the dog it’s hard but I’d be telling him he needs to be walking the dog. Do it for a couple weeks and wash him soon realise why then when he asks sit down with him and tell him how you feel and how unappreciated you feel xx

Try not to feel guilty, the baby won’t be affected. You’re going through a lot, growing a baby is tough! Could you sit down when you’re both calm and make it clear you need to have a really serious, honest open conversation about how you’re feeling and it’s not to blame him or make him feel bad in any way, you just want to find ways to solve it together. He will probably have things he needs to communicate too. It’s such a stressful time for both but having good communication now will really help when you’re in the thick of it when baby is here. I think it’s a totally normal stage for couples to go through exactly what you’re saying - not to diminish your experience but just to say you’re not alone and you can get through this. Sending hugs x

Women have babies during the war, your little one will be fine. I know it’s hard not to, but don’t beat yourself up about it. 🩵

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