Guilt :(

Lately me and my partner have been arguing so much more because he has no consideration for my feelings and says a lot of hurtful things without thinking. He also doesn’t help at all with anything round the house im left to do the cooking cleaning washing etc and also care for his dog. All of this has been making me feel so depressed and I’ve been crying loads and I’m scared of the impact this is going to have on my baby, I’m 22 weeks :(

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Do you have any friend or relatives you could go spend some time with??? It’s not an easy job growing a baby inside of you, you need all the support you can get. Go spend some time with friends and family and see how you feel about that.

I would say show him how much you do for him and how much it is having an impact on you. Leave his washing cook for yourself and clean up only your stuff. Regarding the dog it’s hard but I’d be telling him he needs to be walking the dog. Do it for a couple weeks and wash him soon realise why then when he asks sit down with him and tell him how you feel and how unappreciated you feel xx

Try not to feel guilty, the baby won’t be affected. You’re going through a lot, growing a baby is tough! Could you sit down when you’re both calm and make it clear you need to have a really serious, honest open conversation about how you’re feeling and it’s not to blame him or make him feel bad in any way, you just want to find ways to solve it together. He will probably have things he needs to communicate too. It’s such a stressful time for both but having good communication now will really help when you’re in the thick of it when baby is here. I think it’s a totally normal stage for couples to go through exactly what you’re saying - not to diminish your experience but just to say you’re not alone and you can get through this. Sending hugs x

Women have babies during the war, your little one will be fine. I know it’s hard not to, but don’t beat yourself up about it. 🩵

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Baby clothes

Just out of curiosity, why do parents love zipper onesies?

Don’t get me wrong, I tried zipper ones it’s easy to zip in and out when putting it on the first time and taking it out, but I find it difficult when changing diapers especially when baby is asleep.

I prefer those kimono style buttons where it’s easy to button or too down button with crotch snaps.

Is everyone thinking the same or different? Lol

At this point I’m not enjoying motherhood

My 22 month old is horrendous at the moment🫣 biting, hitting, pushing, pulling and shoving not only adults but children he also wants what other children have and will just snatch it away from them.

We repeat ‘nice hands’ ‘be gentle’ ‘let’s share’ etc

But how do I make him understand what he’s doing isn’t very nice? At the end of the day I feel like I’ve just been saying his name all day and nothing else.

What can I do?

This might rattle some people

Ok, this might get a bit long, and a bit bumpy, so get comfy and buckle up.

So about a week or 2 ago, there was a post on here regarding sleepovers. Not letting their child go to them as you can't trust who'll be at the house etc.

Now, given recent incidents in nurseries and schools, plus my own experience back in the 90s, I am more concerned about sending my child to nursery and later school than I am to a friend's house for a sleep over.

The other day a man was jailed for abusing children at the nursery he worked at. A woman has been arrested for sleeping with an underage boy and then getting pregnant by a different underage boy while on bail for the first offence.

Young girls and boys get sexually harassed and bullied when at school, not all of them. But more than you think. And not just by other kids, but by adults who we as parents are trusting to look after our kids.

A sleepover, is a more controlled environment, with only a handful of people coming into contact with your child. A school, a club etc there can be 100s of people coming into contact with your child.

I was targeted at 7 years old by the owner of a prominent private school. Thankfully, I wasn't SA'd. In year 5 of primary school, I started to develop early, I was harassed by the boys and teachers made remarks about how my uniform didn't fit right, always "adjusting it" around my chest and legs.

Years 7-9 of secondary school were hell. But it was all under the guise of "we're just messing around". A teacher twanging my exposed bra strap (none uniform day) is not "messing around".

Boys pinning me down trying to rip open my shirt to see my breasts.

I fear for my daughter. I hope she takes after my father's family, flat chested.

We need to educate all our children, what is acceptable behaviour. And to come to us, as their parents should ANYTHING happen.

Dummy

My baby has had a dummy since about 2 weeks old (now 5 months) and over the course of the last month we weaned her off it during the day only for naps and night (which was fine) and then 5 days took it completely away during the day.

The first day no dummy was fine, the second bit rougher. But now it feels impossible she just moans and cries all the time it takes ages for her to go down to sleep (she’s always been an amazing sleeper)

I thought it was meant to get better as time went on not worse. I’m at my wits end I dunno what to do.

Currently typing this as she screams uncontrollably in the car and I cry with her cos I can’t do anything.

Help

My LO every feed. Drs don’t seem to think it’s a problem the whole Muslim cloth gets soaked so much I’m using towels now. I’ve tried size O teats he gets really frustrated and still spills it out :(

Of these two, which seems more overall “demanding” to you, overall? Lighthearted poll, not putting anyone down 🫶🏼

As a mum who breastfed for 3 years, I think formula feeding seems 100x harder and more demanding. I give those mamas all the credit because I could not keep up with that faff haha. I truly don’t understand why people say breastfeeding is more effort, other than the fact that no one else can do it. But personally I’d take that over endless bottle prep & cleaning.