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You sound like a superwoman not a failure!! Have you got anyone you can get to come and help you? This time will be hard but you are definitely not a failure xx
You have a newborn AND a toddler and you got out of the house!!! That’s a major win! Don’t be so hard on yourself. Maybe you could ask your partner to look after the baby when he gets home from work and you have some one on one time with your toddler? Maybe read them a story before bed and it can be your special time together. Remember this is just an adjustment period whilst you get use to having two children and you are doing your best. Xx
You're definitely not a failure, far from it. I have one little boy who is 2 - October 2021 - and I can barely leave the house at the moment. Can't imagine how difficult it must be to try getting out with a toddler and a newborn. Everyone else has given you good advice so I would just say to try being kinder to yourself. I know it's far easier to say than to do but you are in the thick of having everything in your family's world being turned upside down. There can be a lot of pressure to make it out every day/often but right now your babies really only need you and your time. Goals can always be adjusted. Xxx
My two have 15 months between them and the first few months were literally just survival! I breastfed my second and I wasn’t prepared for how much time it would take away from my daughter and how disconnected I’d feel. It really does get easier though. Honestly the fact you got out is amazing and you’ve done it once now and it’ll get easier and easier. Yes, you’ll have rubbish days but you are also about to have some of the best days of your life. Give yourself a break and remember you are a human and it’s okay to be stressed and overwhelmed. Deep breaths. The days will get more organised as baby gets older but just don’t expect too much at this age! Xxx
We've got a 2.5yr old and a 3 month old and it is HARD!! (and this is with my partner working from home so he can chip in when needed during the day) so really well done for doing it solo and getting them out! Thanks for posting, I've had similar thoughts and feelings (feeds seem to clash with meal times / bedtimes and all the other things I used to do with my toddler and I've been feeling so guilty) it's good to know I'm not alone and it sounds like it will get easier x
Can you try and practice breastfeeding in a sling? This is my plan!