Breastfed babies

I didn’t breastfeed my first so unsure if this is normal!

My breastfed baby hasn’t fed since 9am(ish). Which I know is only 3 hours ago, but I just remember people saying how much they feed etc and I feel like mines super chilled! She’ll feed about 6 times a day but for like 20/30 mins each feed

Is this pretty standard? Midwife said she’s back to birth weight also

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At first, I only fed my newborn when she woke up and she was under her birth weight for a couple weeks. So I had to feed her every 2-3hrs, even if she was sleeping. They're able to latch while sleeping. I know moms who wake their babies before breastfeeding tho, still 2-3hrs for newborns.

Just feed on demand. Every baby will be different at how they feed. As she's back to birth weight it shows she's getting ample amounts of milk. Just be ready for a cluster feed before a growth spurt.

For example my nephews were constantly attached to my sister multiple times a day well into toddlerhood. My child is happy with a few nursing sessions a day. Just different temperaments for different kids with similar DNA!

As long as she is gaining weight then you have nothing to worry about - every baby is different!
We feed on demand and sometimes LO will go 3/4hours between feeds and sometimes he’ll feed every hour (usually cluster feeds when going through a growth spurt) and most recently we’ve noticed he wants to feed every 2ish hours because he’s teething - pretty sure that’s more of a comfort thing though.

When my baby was a newborn I didn’t like leaving her too long without feeding bc I learnt she’d make up for it at night lol but just feed baby on demand. If they’re weeing plenty and gaining weight all is well xx

Feed on demand. Every 2.5-3.5 hours is pretty typical. I always woke for feeds during the day and let baby wake me at night. Both my girls (almost 4 and almost 14 months) did really great on that routine

Some babies can go a seemingly long time between feeds and that’s fine so long as they’re happy and a good weight/nappy output. Count your blessings! I had a cluster feeding maniac for the first 8 weeks lol 🤪
You probably have an awesome milk supply and she gets a great big feed when she does feed, it also might be her temperament.
She will go through phases where she cluster feeds for growth spurts and things, just roll with it. You sound like you’re doing amazingly!!

I’ve always been advised to feed on demand but not to let baby go longer than 3/4 hours so that’s always been my guide so I’d say it sounds normal to me 🥰 x x

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This is such a ramble but I don’t know where else to put it all.

I’m four months in and I don’t really have hobbies right now. I don’t do anything for myself except maybe doomscrolling or listening to a podcast while I breastfeed my baby. I used to craft and have game nights with friends. Activities that usually are at least 2 hour stretches. Now if I have an hour free my mind immediately goes to baby, or doing something in the house for baby.

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He spends most of his time making food for us, looking after our dogs, playing with the baby, ect. But he still has time for his hobby. Spends maybe an hour a night on it. Even adapted to using a bot for shopping for his hobby after a certain incident where we had to have a heart to heart after he left me home alone with the baby for hours during a busy workday (I work from home) to shop for his hobby.

And yet there’s like this little green eyed monster in me that rages every time I know he’s running off to start up the bot. Even though I’m the reason he does it this way.

We took a family trip last weekend to see his best friend and their kids and let them meet the baby. He brought the laptop. He’s always brought a laptop on trips and it’s never been a problem to me before. But one night we both woke up while the baby was still asleep, and he wandered out of the room. I tried to fall back asleep but couldn’t. So I went to the kitchen to try having something warm to drink to settle me. And he was there at the table running the bot from his laptop. I flipped out at him. But there really wasn’t reason to. It’s not like I needed help with the baby and he was ignoring me. He wasn’t avoiding our friends. He was just awake and unable to sleep and found something to do with his time. Yet my snap reaction was “why the hell would you do this on a family trip?”

I don’t know what it is. Maybe it’s the less complete sleep from baby’s middle of the night feed? My brain being just consumed by baby? Maybe I’m not as over that shopping incident as I thought? But I’m just so annoyed at his hobby right now. The green eyed monster thinks “you could be using that time differently” but realistically to do what exactly??? Stare at our baby in the dark???

I spent probably an hour apologizing to him after I snapped. And he’s of course hurt and frustrated because I said some very mean things in the moment.

I don’t want to be this jealous, angry person. But I also don’t know how to find time for myself in this right now outside of basic hygiene. It’s like I’ve forgotten how to be myself, even if just for an hour.

Maybe I need a therapist.

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