Frustrated with .. everything

My step daughter tries to get away with not doing any chores or plays dumb and acts like she doesn’t know how to do anything . Or uses the excuse that she doesn’t live here so she doesn’t have to contribute . From correspondence with her mom that attitude isn’t tolerated either . Is this just her expressing feelings because she has 2 homes ? I’m trying my best to be patient and understanding . I give her reminders and tell her in nice ways to do her chores . Then I think maybe she’s jealous of her little sister but even her little sister has chores and she even offers to help SD with chores . Idk what to do

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Make a chart and have her check it off, if she enjoys something or in a sport, she can't do it or play until she does her responsibility. Let her know everyone plays a part and has to help out and pull their weight

She’s 12 . It’s just been this way forever , I’ve been in her life since she was 2 . As she’s been getting older it’s become more and more challenging .

Her chores are basically to clean up after herself or take care of herself (brush her teeth , fix her bed, get dressed etc) . In my opinion most of those are things that she should be doing already. The only thing we ask that she helps out with is unloading the dishwasher . That’s it . I feel like at that age , kids are capable of doing or contributing more but she’s just so disconnected with wanting to help with anything . Idk if this is just the preteen phase or what. I keep thinking maybe it’s just because this isn’t her primary home that’s throwing off her routine but basic hygiene should be done regardless of where she’s at .

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