Bio Mom is Manipulating Step Children.

Me and Bio mom have always had a really rocky relationship. It started out bad her first words to me were extremely hateful. Over the last 3+ years we have been to court for her filing an PO against my husband for protecting me from her trying to attack me while I was pregnant. Through the entirety of these 3+ years this woman has called me every name in the book and belittled me. Other than one very long deserving message after all the shit I had taken from her I never called her a name or speak down to her or speak down of her to the kids.. Our oldest Daughter (SD) is becoming a pre teen, and is becoming more like her mother in how she acts and talks… her mother is very ghetto I’ll fight anyone attitude, has no respect for authority and is diagnosed with Bipolar disorder as well. Before this past year we have had a great relationship with the kids when they are with us. But these last few months have been a consistent theme that everytime they go home to their mother they are saying they hate it here and they don’t want to be forced to come here. Bio Mother has made the children believe that dad is not allowed to discipline them, if he feels that the crop top his child is wearing is not appropriate and addresses that she needs to change cause it’s not appropriate for a child she tells mom that he’s making her insecure and makes her feel bad , instead of being a parent and saying . “Your dad is being a dad the same way I’m being a parent when I make you change because I feel it’s not appropriate” she coddles her and says that’s not right your dad shouldn’t make u feel this way. Anytime my husband tries to be a father she tells the kids that it’s basically not his place.. More recently she felt it was appropriate to take my husbands words out of context in a moment of frustration. And told the children that there dad wants to give up his rights and custody. Which is absolutely the last thing my husband wants to do. But she felt it was appropriate to tell the kids that and now his daughter thinks it’s okay to yell at him and call him bro and say he should just sign over his rights already.. I’m just at loss on how to handle this evil , bio mom is truly a cold hateful person.. and has no problem mentally abusing her children by manipulating them into thinking their dad is a terrible father. And as someone who is married and has a child with him I can promise you he’s not.