Kissing baby
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Oh god no I’d feel so icky about that, I completely understand where you’re coming from. Even I don’t kiss my own 3 month old baby on the lips (always cheeks/forehead etc), there’s absolutely no need for anyone else to do it! You have every right to be as protective over your baby as you feel is right.
My parents kiss my baby as long as they aren't ill it's fine at that age
i wouldn’t be worried so much about illness but anyone kissing my baby on the lips would be straight up weird. i don’t even kiss my baby on the lips. definitely boundaries crossed
I agree with you, I would not be okay with anybody else kissing my baby on the lips either! If your not comfortable with it your husband should talk to your FIL and explain that it’s not okay.
I think in terms of germs no baby should be fine however it’s strange to kiss sometimes child on the lips. I have nieces and baby cousins and have never kissed any of them on the lips I don’t really even kiss cheeks to be honest I do kiss my own babies but they’re mine. My parents will kiss my toddler on the forehead if they’re fit and well but if they’re unwell or have a sore throat they won’t even come near. The main thing is it’s your baby and you don’t like it so FIL should respect that
It’s never over reacting when it’s your baby. If you don’t feel comfortable with something happen to your very innocent and potentially vulnerable child, those boundaries should be respected and anyone who doesn’t, loses the privilege to spend time with your child until they learn to respect you as their parent. As those are the same people who then won’t respect when a child doesn’t wish to kiss or hug them goodbye or feels entitled to them.
You haven't overreacted at all. I still say no kissing my 21mo. We don't always know we are sick straight away, so I'd rather everyone be safe than sorry. Secondly, yeah, no that's freaking gross. I don't know where he got the audacity but you do not kiss anyone else's baby on the lips. Give him this: https://www.lullabytrust.org.uk/about-us/newborn-infection-prevention-campaign/
Also, if babies get ill, it's the parents who have to deal with it. Selfish to even risk it imo
if someone gets cold sores they do not need to have an active one to transmit the disease. things like cavities can even be transmitted and baby can still get ill from any germs or viruses the person may be carrying. i’m sorry that happened. boundaries are important and its super important that both parents are on the same page. no one except my husband and i are allowed to kiss our baby anywhere for many reasons!! including health, but also due to autonomy and precaution. i know some people have no issue, but i personally find it repulsive when people kiss babies that arent theirs esp on the lips. it’s unnecessary and unsanitary.
That's disgusting. No consent. Also, under 12 months old, herpes like cold sore can be extremely dangerous to babies. Mouths are dirtier than buttholes.
The only people I’d be happy kissing my girl in lips is myself and my husband (her dad). I wouldn’t kiss anyone else’s child on the lips so no one should be kissing my child on the lips. She’s mine so I will. Until she doesn’t want me to of course.
Not over reacting at all! That's YOUR baby. My daughter is 2, and I don't want ANYONE putting their lips on her lips or anywhere near her lips! Me and my partner have had huge arguments over this too because his family threw a fit that they couldn't kiss my baby on her lips!!! Personally, I think it's weird when an adult has an issue being told no on kissing a baby!!! Gives me the biggest ick!!!!! I still have to watch my inlaws now because they have no respect, and my partner won't speak up. For me, it's germs and just respect for boundaries. I don't understand why anyone needs to kiss a baby/child on the lips!!! No need!
My husband and I wouldn’t be ok if anyone kissed our boy on the lips. I don’t understand why people want to kiss a baby on the lips! Children catch illnesses at the best of times, don’t need other people adding to it! Xx
I'm not a fan of anyone kissing babies/children on the lips But yes the germ potential is too high to let other kiss baby too
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Nope. I'm not okay with that, it doesn't matter that she's his granddaughter. As a girl mom, I'd slap the everloving CRAP out of anyone that kisses her during cold/flu season
You’re not over reacting. Personally that is not ok for anyone apart from mum and dad to kiss baby especially on the lips!! Every boundary crossed. And just too weird
Not an over reaction at all. Honestly I’d just send your FIL a text, like now, and then the message is passed on. Frustrating your partner isn’t on the same page and he’s left the house, but you need to pass the message on & the sooner you do it, the sooner everyone can get onto the same page and move past this xxx
Not overreacting at all. Adults do gross shit with their mouths. No reason they should be putting them on someone else’s baby
Me and her father kiss her on the cheek / chin / face , not lips . My mother kisses her on the very back of her head to say goodbye and her little cousins on very back of head also , everyone knows this is a boundary , an unspoken one at that , cousin were told my grandparents and their parents no kissing baby on face !
Ok but a kiss on the lips? Weird
I agree with you and I’m a total hypocrite cause I’d probably react the same, but maybe we’d catch more flies with honey 🥴
Ohhhh no that would be totally unacceptable if someone did that to my baby. My adrenaline starts going even thinking about it 💀. I’m sorry your partner isn’t validating you like he should!
Totally get it I would not be allowing my fil to kiss baby on lips
Regardless of age, if YOU don’t want people kissing your baby then that is absolutely ok!!!!!!!!! Tell FIL yourself if your partner won’t before he thinks it’s ok and continues to do so! My LO is almost 11 months and I still don’t allow anyone to kiss her. There’s no fucking need
In the mouth? Ppl kissing baby’s on the lips? I know there are parents that do. I don’t agree with it, but it’s more acceptable, now… a grandpa kissing a baby on the lips, oh hell no!! Your husband doesn’t want to say anything, okiii, do it yourself. Tell FIL you don’t want anyone kissing your baby on the lips, and make sure u tell him that you didn’t mention it at the time because you got a upset/ uncomfortable.
Show him videos of babies with RSV or what happens when babies get kissed by someone with cold sores. He will change his mind.
Omg that’s actually disgusting for him to even think that’s okay. Can this be some kind of boomer people thing? Why am I seeing all these 60+ year olds kissing babies that’s not theirs. It’s just not okay and I would definitely confront him and put that boundary up now.
At 7 months, they’ve built up an immune system and have usually had some vaccines that they need by this point. But that being said, they can still get poorly and get infections. I think if FIL is ill or had any cold symptoms then it’s a no go, but if he’s fine then don’t worry too much. At 7 months, she’s definitely had worse things near her mouth when biting new things and trying out her senses!