My MIL kissed my PREM baby on the lips with a cold sore and now she has one!!
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So sorry. Firstly, get your baby checked over for peace of mind especially when so young and prem. Secondly, I would take that as your first warning and what your MIL is showing you what she will be like and now not trust her and be cautious. Thirdly, it is all about you and baby and your family now and you need to do what is best for your precious baby girl. Xxxx
Oh wow - I am so sorry Mom. I am fuming reading this - NICU stay or not- no kissing the baby. Even without kissing, she was acting insane. I. If ever in doubt- call your doc and ask. In this case I would go in but that is me personally and my mind would worry too much if I didn’t. 2. I also would not call, see, speak to MIL again. She clearly has some agenda with LO and has zero respect for you or her son - or honestly LO or she wouldn’t have kissed her. All the hugs and moral support from over. You are not overreacting.
Im actually in shock reading this, what an awful woman. Im so glad your partner is putting her in her place over this. If I were you I’d get your baby checked over just in case. Id also call it what it is, herpes! I feel like coldsores make it sound less bad than it actually is but Id start pointing out to your MIL and other people that she kissed your baby and gave your baby herpes and how absolutely disgusting that is. Use the word! No one can try and argue that its vile. Id definitely cut contact until MIL apologises and even then never leave her unsupervised or even let her hold the baby.
Sue her ass!!!
@Dai Op’s story made me want to cry because I 100% agree with you my first thought was she wanted the baby to have a “part of her” especially since she called their child HER baby, overstepped a lot and HID HER COLD SORE UNDER A SCARF she 100% knew what she was doing. I’d never speak to her again after that and if his family tries to say anything I’d tell them unless you experienced a premie that got a cold sore from their granny KNOWINGLY you have no say in our choices. Also urge them to google what could possibly happen to babies with cold sores it’s not okay at all.
@Bella the story surely made my skin crawl. Idk how they maintained but I would’ve been on the verge of zapping out as soon as I saw what was going down.
I am so sorry omg. How are you and baby now??? As for this woman, you should cut contact 199228929% and DONT let her or anyone sweet talk their way back into your life’s. She literally put your baby’s life at risk, what the hell? Call the police if she comes to your front door for trespassing & if your partner feels some type of way, he might as well join her. Wishing you all the best
I’m so sorry this has happened to your family 🥺 the fear I felt reading this! I couldn’t imagine what you’ve been through from premature birth and caring for your baby in hospital to the joy of getting home to now dealing with that horrible behaviour and the worrying to start all over again! I would 100% never speak to her again she has potentially threatened your child life and any adult knows the risk. I really hope your baby is okay and your family heal from this ❤️❤️
What a cunt. She’d never see my baby again if that was me. I can’t believe how stupid she can be putting such a vulnerable baby at risk! I hope bubba is okay ❤️
I am so sorry you’re going through this I feel sick for you I would cut her off I am the softest people pleaser ever but she was out of my life how fucking selfish!! What does your partner think? And what the f is her excuse for kissing a premature baby with a cold sore on the lips??? I would defo take baby to be checked hope all is well
I am re reading this and it’s so intentional what she has done hiding it under the scarf the kissing baby when you’re both out of the room what the actual f !
i would NEVER let her around my child EVER again. please! she deliberately put her at huge risk for health issues it doesn’t matter that she’s family because she has no issue putting your daughter in danger and imo she should have zero access to her at all. IMMEDIATELY CUT HER OFF!!
Wtaf! She’s absolutely MAD!!! Definitely get baby checked OP. You and your partner had good clear boundaries and she overstepped them and what was that about saying she wants to take your baby home in her car?!your partner is very supportive and puts her in her place which is amazing. I’m sorry but i agree with everyone else…i wouldnt let her see baby for the foreseeable. Those people that are siding with HER can absolutely do one! If it was their baby and knew the risks i’m sure they would feel differently 🙄 i hope your baby is ok OP. Going through a prem labour and long neonatal journey is so so tough. Your baby is so vulnerable in and out of nicu. Especially being prem. how could MIL do that?! I’m really shocked. Sending so much love to you xx do keep us updated how baby is xx
MIL would not EVER see my child again. Period. And anyone in the family who sided with her would be cut off, too.
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This made me want to hit your mil in the face. I m sorry you have to deal with NICU and with this level of stupidity. I m happy your husband is facing her. I would make my baby being checked to be sure she is OK
Kill her. She’s never allowed to see the kids again.
I would sue her !
@Dai I definitely would’ve put hands on her and I’m not a violent person at all. Throughout school when people wanted to fight I always talked my way out of it. But to put her baby in danger like that I wouldn’t be able to contain my anger at all. I’m a new person since being pregnant.
@Sarah I agree cut those people off too because it means they are willing to put ur child’s safety at risk.
I read half of that. My answer is she no longer gets to see baby. Anyone who gets my child sick or puts their health at risk doesn't get to come around anymore. (I only read as far as I could without getting anxious. I'm 34 weeks, FTM, and terrified of something like this happening)
I would take legal action, may seem overboard but she deliberately kissed your baby knowing she has an active breakout of a cold sore. The showing up is harassment as well. I pray that baby is okay and doesn’t contract herpes or anything. I would definitely get it checked out, but I would never let her see the baby again.
Hey, before I say anything else, go to the pediatrician NOW.
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Restraining order and no contact. Wtf.
That would be it for me. She would be fully cut off if that happened to me
All I read was the title and I just know that woman deserves a slap. YOU DONT KISS KIDS ESPECIALLY WHEN THEYRE PREEMIE AND ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU AS A GROWN ASS ADULT HAVE A COLD SORE. CAN I PLEASE HIT HER WITH A BUS
His mum seems like an absolute nutter wtf
What the actual fuck. What the fucking fuck. Why on earth would she do that?! I’m so sorry for you.
I’m very sorry to read this. Very hard post to make it all the way though. Please consider pressing charges sooner than later. The baby still has at least 2 weeks of potential gestation time for the HSV to set in her body. As horrible as it is, it’s probably best to assume she’s going to contract it. Reach out to your pediatrician right away if you haven’t already. The faster you can get baby help, the better the chance of a good outcome. I’m sorry you’re going though this mama!
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I'm so sorry. I would email photos to the Midwife of HV and probably call to feel better. This behaviour is appauling and unacceptable.
You need to phone either the neonatal ward or gp and take her to the hospital today. Not to scare you but she needs to start antiviral treatment and she needs proper diagnoses and hospital care today potentially depending on what the doctors decide. There is no waiting to see in this situation, look at the kit tarka foundation for more information.
OP please can we have an update on your LO
I’m so sorry you had to go through that. It’s good that your partner is on the same side as you. But yeah, like the others, I’d probably just cut her off completely until she understands that boundaries aren’t meant to be broken. It was a huge breach of trust. I don’t even know if I’d be able to forgive her, regardless if baby caught the virus or not. And I’m not even someone who holds grudges! Her behaviour showed absolutely no respect and regard for others. I hope baby is fine. I have had quite a bit of anxiety around HSV so read quite a bit about it. I read that the first infection is usually the worse. Babies will have a fever before they start showing any sores. Sometimes they don’t even have any visible sores, they are just very unwell with a fever. From what you are saying, it might not be a cold sore. But I’m no doctor and I don’t know what you saw on your baby’s lips. Best to seek medical advice just to be on the safe side. I hope your baby managed to dodge the virus. x
No no no. No forgiveness, no second chances there. I've actually never heard anything like this, that is absolutely horrific.
Omg. I would be SO livid. I’m so sorry you have such a horrible, awful, evil MIL!! Please take your precious baby to the doctor ASAP. If it was me, I could cut off all contact with her forever and get a restraining order. If she shows up on your doorstep, call the police and have her arrested. And if you choose not to cut off all contact forever, please at least never ever leave her alone with your child (even for a minute)!
Hope little one is okay! I would never talk to her ever again
If you bring your baby to the doctor and find out she gave ur baby a cold sore you definitely should press charges. It was intentional and this is so disturbing
That was a lot to digest. And firstly I want to say I am angry for you. If you won’t be angry, I will! Boundaries were set and she purposely did not respect them. I feel like you and the dad let her slide with coming to see the baby so soon simply because it’s his mother. It shouldn’t matter who the person is. No means no. She knowingly had a cold sore and still DELIBERATELY went and kissed a defenseless newborn on her lips. Everyone who gets cold sores knows they are transferable. I’m sorry but I feel as though she did that on purpose. As to make sure the baby got a “part of her” meaning the cold sore. It might sound weird and you might be thinking “no she wouldn’t do that” but from the sound of it, she would do almost anything. I can’t tell you what to do in your home or how to handle this situation, but I would keep her far away from my child until my child could speak. This may sound harsh but something doesn’t seem right with her.