I think my baby daddy might be gay! HELP

I don’t want this to come off offensive because I don’t have a problem if he is and i’ll still love him but I would be hurt. So I just got off the phone with him and ngl I felt very uncomfortable. We were talking about something I can’t remember exactly and I had said something and he respond with “see that’s why I don’t date women.” hes made comments like that before how he wants to vanish women from the face of the earth if he ever was president but then he’s muslim so he also has made statements how he wants multiple wife’s but again he isn’t ever serious. He also goes by they/them pronouns which I don’t really mind but I remember he would make fun of people who went by they/them but he goes by it so it doesn’t make sense. But back to the story after he said that I said “so who do you date?” and his response was “oh you know who i date” I was confused and shook he said that because in my mind that’s what he meant was he dated men. We ended going back and forth because he wouldn’t tell me who he meant by that. And then I ended up asking him if that’s what he meant and he felt super offended. He told me that if I ever say something like that he wouldn’t talk to me ever again. I know his humor and sarcasm so I knew he was just joking but then he proceeded to try to say his phone was gonna die and he was gonna hmu later. He stayed otp with me a little longer but then I said I had to go and you could tell that’s what he wanted. ( he had called me in the beginning ) And right before that convo he was telling me about a guy who went trans. Anyways I’m not sure if he is but i’m idk. Side note, the reason I even have suspicions is because when I would look through his phone I done found guys trying to hit him up and i’m not saying he entertained it but you could tell he was friendly to them. He also is friends with a lot of ppl from the lgtbq community. He also has squash mellows and keeps them like collectibles. But honestly tell me what you guys think

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Gay or not he sounds like an asshole But yeah it sounds like he definitely could be gay / bi / curious , but maybe he’s stuggling to accept it him self - especially being religious, and that’s why he’s being weird about it ?

Sounds like he isn’t even sure himself. Could be struggling with his identity, especially if he’s religious

I want to add on with a few things bc I didn’t explain that well. When I looked through his phone I only saw one time that a dude was trying to get him to go to the bar with him and he told me that dude was straight and had a girlfriend. I looked at the dudes ig account and his gf was no where to be found and he def gave me major gay vibes. I also found he was texting females and cheating on me with girls so that’s why i’m confused. One of his best friends is a lesbian and has a gf and he is constantly hanging out with them. there was a point when I thought that they had like a three way relationship because they always were hanging out

@Olivia When I asked him what he meant he was being weird about it and then I told him this was awkward and I brought up how he had squashmellows and then he questioned me why i brought that up and then told me that he dated women. After that that’s when he got mad at me

@Helen I don’t even know at this point. He’s done cheated on me in the past and has even texted some of my friends before but he didn’t know we were friends. He also used to have this journal and I looked at it one day and he was writing about his friend who is a girl. I say all of this bc i’m not sure about his sexuality ik all of this is bad for him to do

Are you guys still chatting like romantically ? Or is it strictly platonic now ?

@Drew We will both initiate sex. Everytime we have sex he seems into it, sometimes he will last a while like 15 mins. He says that’s because he can’t focus sometimes if there is background noise. He’s not really religion like he doesn’t go to church or pray even. His family doesn’t always celebrate christmas and rn he’s fasting but he doesn’t really study the bible or anything. He also told me about the guy who asked him to hang at the bar like days before i went through his phone and told me that he didn’t want to because he would’ve felt uncomfortable but then i seen their messages days later and it’s him making up excuses but also being friendly

After all that I've just read, I'm absolutely baffles why you choose to stay with a guy that treats you this way? Seriously like why? Let's out his sexuality aside why do you chose to stay with someone that chests on you, messages other women and guys? And lies to you?

@Olivia We are still romantically involved. I’ve know him since high school and I always thought he was a flirt. I’ve been friends with him for a long time and I just now am seeing this side of him. He loves hello kitty and i used to think it was bc of the girl he cheated on me with ( she loved hello kitty ) but now i’m thinking he just has an obsession. He says he loves everything korean however i just think it’s extra to have the kello kitty girl as a tattoo 😩

@Becky honestly it’s trama bond. I don’t force anything ever I just have a issue with letting go. I used to be way worse but now I don’t even get hurt by the shit he’s does to me. I wasn’t ever perfect either keep in mind. We both don’t need to be together

Damn, who cares if he’s even gay. He sounds like a misogynist ass hole. Sorry you’re going through this, but this sounds toxic all around.

@Brittany yeah he’s not shit for real so sad i had a baby with him honestly otherwise i don’t even think we would have been friends

lol to add to this i just had to put him in jail for dv charges as well as strangling charges so a big fuck him and his mama og

@Jade i am i fr hate him he got mad bc i asked him to lmk the next time his mama feeds my daughter something without my knowledge. I called the cops on him for yanking my hair after the fact that i told him i had sex with someone. i only did that bc he started it telling me how he was cheating on me with multiple females and have videos to prove it. And to add the cherry on top, our daughter was in the car I have video evidence of him being aggressive towards as well and i’m upset i didn’t show the cops but my bruise was evidence enough