This can’t be good 🫤 Long post

I have a almost 4 yr old and I am sooo worn out, I take care of him all alone with no help(he doesn’t even go to school bc I don’t wanna get him the flu vaccine). He is literally on top of me ALL DAY! Our daily routine: Wake up-8am we cuddle and talk til about 830 Make breakfast-830 he either helps me or is pulling at me to play with him while I’m making breakfast 🙄 Take shower- 930-1030 he takes a shower with me Playtime- 1030-12pm practicing reading and writing Snack- we sit to the table and have a snack together Outside time- 12-4 we are outside park, grandmas house, library(he doesn’t leave me side at either place) Lunch- 3-4 he helps me make lunch or we eat lunch outside Playtime- 4-6pm we are playing TOGETHER he will not play alone. Normally it’s tv or Kinect if sand so I do have a couple mins to use my phone From 6-dinner time it varies what we do, normally this is the time I’m super burnt out so it normally looks like him whining and pulling on me and laying all over me because he’s bored and I’m usually cleaning the house from the day. Dinner time- 8pm I start preparing dinner once again he’s at my feet the ENTIRE TIME! Dinner/ bedtime routine- consists of reading a little play and bed He sleeps with me, which he has to be touching me either he lays with his head on my stomach or his legs across me and when I get up to use the bathroom or get a glass of water he either cries or wake up smh As you can see in our daily routine we get zero time away from each other I have honestly gotten so used to it that it no longer bothers me that we don’t get time apart BUT my mom bought it to my attention that it isn’t healthy for neither one of us especially my child. Now it’s got me thinking am I ruining my son while trying to do “what’s best” for him ?! I would love for him to play alone and entertain himself but he just WONT ! Idk what to do I’ve tried everything to get him to play alone he just WILL NOT 😞 Please any suggestions/advice
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I think it’s a face they go through bc they want someone to play with them and all that! My soon to be 4 is the same and he has a little sister that’s a year and a half and he still wants me all the time! But when we go out I try to help him make friends with other kids and he’s getting better at learning how to play with them or alone

Honestly mama, at this point in his age, he needs other children to grow with and learn with. As the main person providing all care it’s hard to give all our time with them and although learning to play alone is beneficial- there comes a time (whether it’s solo play or just with one person all the time) when it can be detrimental to their mental growth & wellbeing. I would recommend finding a playgroup with other kids or somewhere where he can go play with others several times a week. He may be desperate, in a sense, for more companionship than you yourself can provide alone and it’s so very important at this age for children to be with others so they can learn social dynamics. You can usually find mom groups in your area on FB and maybe use that outlet to set some play groups up. Best of luck!

Uh...vaccinate your kid then. The benefits highly outweigh the risks and the poor child obviously needs socialization. Are you just planning to keep him home forever?

Thank you Erika and Esperanza, I agree I feel that it’s a phase but also it’s something he’s missing that he’s looking for, that unfortunately I can’t give him no matter how much time I spend with him. I just see so many other children play alone, his little cousin is 2 and she’ll play with him for a while and then even she branches off and plays alone, but my child is like “mommy play with me, mommy sit on the floor with me”

@Lindsey girl out of this wholeeee long post THATS the part you chose to comment on smh . I’m choosing not to give him the flu vaccine which by the age of 5 it’s no longer required so he will be in school. He gets hrs of social time a day whether its at the park with other children or the library with other children his age, because he does toddler time there 2X a week or even at his grandma house he has plenty of cousins around his age, he’s also in gymnastics which is for 3-5yr olds and he’s the only child that wants their parent In there with them, so uhmm I’m sure he gets more than enough socialization . My only point is that even when we’re out with other children while he’s playing he still needs me there playing or interacting with him while he’s playing with the other kids . THAT was the point of this post, which I see went straight over your head .

Yes. That is what I took away from your post. Seems like your entire life would be easier if your child could go to school, but you won't allow that to happen because...why? Make it make sense.

Interesting, my son is in preschool and he didn't have to get his flu shot... Just other required shots.

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