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Keep a consistent routine. Even if he wakes up and ends up in bed with you, always start the night in the crib. It worked for my kids. Eventually they stopped waking up at night.

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Did you breastfeed.???

I did. I would just fall asleep while they were eating

Sleep with the sheets that you plan on using in the crib so that everything will smell of you.

I’ll also mention my son has been breastfed since birth. N while he does eat big boy foods now, he still goes on the breast for comfort and falling asleep.

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Maybe try pumping and giving him a bottle, it means you would have to get up but it can work out.

I would rock my girls to sleep with a “lovey” or really soft blanket. Then I would put them down the crib. & slowly I stopped rocking & just gave them the lovey & put them in the crib. It was a slow transition but they sleep all night in their own cribs now.

We got the book "The Sleep Easy Solution" and it worked awesome for both my boys. It's a graduated cry it out, like Ferber, which teaches them good sleep habits and how to put themselves back to sleep (which helps them for life). The book has a really easy to follow plan based on age and covers all the "what ifs". I won't lie, it's really hard for 2-3 nights, but then they go down and stay in their crib for like 12 hours at night and then 2 hours for naps (as long as you're consistent with the plan). *Game changer*

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Oops, sorry, don't know how I missed that. Never mind

I don’t think this lady is looking for cry it out methods, graduated or not! But very interesting to read.

I started off letting my son nap in his crib during they day so he gets use to it and he was bottle fed X

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That’s what I did too. Crib naps and spending time in the room with him while in there.

Put the cot in your room for a week then move it in to his room x

The pick up method worked for my daughter.

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Pick up method.??

https://www.healthline.com/health/parenting/pick-up-put-down-method

Just asking because Im in a similar situation and I want to get mg baby out of the bed. Does your son sleep in your room or does he has his own room? I hired a sleep consultant for my first and it was great, but he had his own room. My 8 month old goes to sleep fine but wakes up for breastfreeding or just wakes up, multiple times during the night. I weaned my first before sleep training ( he was 1 1/2 ) I dont want to wean her yet.

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Please may I have the contact if the sleep trainer ??

Sleep consultant??

My baby just started sleeping in her own crib. I put her in it while she is awake and sit where she can see me. She rolls around and then falls along after about 10 minutes. It may take a few nights and it may be hard if he fusses but you and he can do it!

Moms on call is pretty great. No cry it out just tips on creating an environment conducive to sleep plus schedules that are good for sleep etc.

A nice warm bath, cuddles before bed and a bottle always works for us. We leave a hallway light on. Yes he will cry our boy still does but they soon settle. Time really is what it takes. It won’t happen over night but you will get there.

My girls slept with me for a bit too. When I transitioned them, I would lay them down in their cribs and when they cried, I would pat their backs, their bums or just try to shhh them. Once they were quiet, I left the room. If they started fussing again, I went back and repeated. If you put him to bed when he is showing signs of sleepiness it will help. Eventually he will understand that he can self sooth to sleep.

My first we just tried a few times and eventually she took to sleeping in her crib, she was almost 7 months when we made the transition. I was sleeping on the couch with her on me, not ideal but it worked for us.

I'd suggest wrapping him in one of the swaddle blankets that close with velcro, and be sure to sleep with it a night or two before you wrap him on it, to get your scent on it. And if you have a way to get one, a momaroo was wonderful for me. And getting into a habit of doing a routine each night. Find one that's right for ya'll.. Like, bed time, a book and/or song, etc. And if you know anyone with essential oils, try diffusing some SleepyIze in the room he sleeps. That also seems to help my little guy, even now. :) Best wishes dear momma!!

Sometimes I let my daughter calm down in my bed and then move her. I also leave her in her cot just flicking through books with the light on. She just passed out when tired then I move the books away and put the blanket on. I always run to her when she cries or screams. I want her to feel in control of being in the cot. I often just cuddle her then put her back. I let her protest for a couple of screams when I leave the room, but any more and I come right back.

We did Ferber at 6 weeks. All meat gods involve some crying. Change is uncomfortable and there’s no way around that. You do what your comfortable with. You could sit by the crib or pat his back until he sleeps...but then that’s a crutch you have to break later.

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Damn auto Correct...not meat gods -methods.

I put my baby in the crib at this age too, no method was needed. It may take a few days but now she goes straight to sleep, and for more hours than usual :)

You could start with the crib in your room. Once he’s used to sleeping in the crib, move the crib to his own room.

We have a pretty solid nighttime routine, that we practice around the same time every night: bath, lotion/baby massage, and then rocking and cuddling. When I rock and cuddle him by his crib I leave all the lights off (they say ditching the nightlight is helpful for establishing a good night's sleep). I also use essential oils and bought a very comfortable crib topper and really soft sheet. Best of luck!

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Could you recommend the crib topper you got?

We started with naps in the crib and then after about a month or so of that we started having her sleep in there at night. Also having a solid night time routine has really helped too. We try to put her to bed around the same time every night. We start with a bath, bedtime lotion, pajamas, bedtime story, sleep sack and then down for the night.

Sleep with one of his blankets for a few days and then when he goes into his cot give it him it will smell of u and that should comfort him a little

I don't think you can swaddle at this age - but definitely a sleep Sack is good! Also, there might be some tears but that's okay! Everyone is a little resistant to change. There are lots of different methods you can use - just find one that works for you!

I let my daughter fall asleep in our bed and then move her to her crib. I'm currently working on waiting until she's almost asleep and moving her to slowly transition her to getting used to sleeping there

Start with naps. Put in bed nearly sleeping, and then more and more awake. Otherwise, if you wait till they are asleep, and then they wake up in the middle of the night, they don't know how to fall back to sleep by themselves. If it is very upsetting or they are crying, try laying down on the floor next to the crib until they fall asleep, and then sit by the door, then sit outside the room, and remind them that you are right there. After failing at CIO, it took months to get our kid to sleep in his bed. He has always been a terrible sleeper though, so hopefully you will have an easier time of it. At 2 though, we sing some songs and he goes to bed wide awake, and if he wakes in the middle of the night, most of the time he can go back to sleep (unless he has had a nightmare or something).

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Also, make sure to have a good consistent bedtime routine. Snack, brush teeth, PJs, story or a song or both.

My biggest advice is to give the coping skills to fall asleep alone. If you move after they are sleeping they will wake up more. Never put in crib asleep!! Drowsy but not asleep. Pm me if you need help :)

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That's a terrible idea that hardly ever works.

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I haven't had problems with the co- sleeping thing but my 4 yr old has a hard time falling to sleep alone at bedtime since I've rocked him or layed with him til he has fallen asleep since birth. But what you could try is laying down with him in his room after night time routine is over and make sure it's dark until he is asleep. The best of luck on your journey and hope you find what works best for you.

I do the three Bs every night. (Bath,bottle and bed) This week was the first time trying this technique and also her first sleeping in her own room and so far it’s been working great. Her last feeding for the day is usually 830-9 so I start getting things ready at 8 and she’s usually down sleeping by 9 and she’ll sleep till her next feeding. I started to feed her in her room at night so she doesn’t get stimulated after her bath so it’s easier for her to go to sleep. So I turn her night light on her humidifier get her pjs ready and swaddle. After she gets her pjs on I turn off the light I use her lamp instead of room light so it’s not to bright start her crib mobile fornthe music or I play music like Louis Armstrong as I feed her so she knows it’s night night time and then after she’s done she’s already pretty much sleeping so I gently put her in her zen swaddle and put her in her crib then I go to bed. I highly recommend a zen swaddle.

Bedshare or side car a crib. Baby needs mama

My babies have stayed in my bed 18 months, 3 years and now my newborn. Nothing wrong with bed sharing.

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Taking cara babies worked great for our third son! He sleeps 11 hours in his crib with 1 dream feed at 6 months old.

I used "Good Night, Sleep Tight" by "The Sleep Lady" with both of my sons. There's a book & a workbook. You can totally get just the workbook, since it includes a condensed version of the text.

My son slept with us for a month and I never really had to do anything.

If you want to stop bed sharing so you can get better sleep (or another reason) and you don't want your child bawling for you and not understanding why you aren't coming (or whatever other reason you might not want to do cry it out), there's not quite as much in useful suggestions. I've done bed-sharing, and then when a kid is big enough and active enough wanted to stop (before my kid wants to stop) and I need my sleep to be able to better care for 'em when they are awake. I have to care for myself to be able to care for 'em and plus they get better sleep also.

One thing that helps us is to play a little before bed and cuddle with in the kid's bed (we skipped the crib and went to toddler bed mattress on the floor before then going to the mattress on its frame). This way after kiddo falls asleep they can get up and play in their room if they wake up or can come in our room if Mama or Dada are needed. We still get to be there at night if needed, but everyone gets more sleep and is happier in the morning. If you do this, ya gotta babyproof all of babies room, cause they got access.

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I let my 6 month old fall asleep on me or my partner. Then we'll put him in his cot and normally he sleeps right through

You could always try putting him in his cot, saying good night and then leaving him for a minute before going back to check him. Then leave him for 5 mins before checking. You could leave him 10mins the next time and so on till he's asleep or at least settled. This way let's him know that you'll always come back and he's not necessarily being left completely alone. Another method is sitting with him and holding his hand, rubbing his tummy or patting him until he's asleep. After a few months of doing this he may be to go to sleep on his own without becoming upset. I work as a nursery nurse full time and both of these methods have prove to work but there's definitely nothing wrong with your little one still sleeping with you 🙂 xx

When my son was that young i let him sleep with me and when i knew he was asleep i would put him in his crib and turn on his mobile that played music and he stayed asleep til like 4 a.m.

I did next to me, then cot in same room them his own room Each time there was an adjustment period which at times felt like stepping backwards but not he naps and sleeps like a log in his own room.

You could start with a pack n play in your room and then when he’s consistently sleeping in that move to the crib. Or put a bed in the nursery and sleep next to him while he’s in the crib

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The pack n play suggestion next to my side of the bed (in addition to noise machine) is exactly what we did to start, and our little guy transitioned to his crib no problem after a month.

Start with nap time first, if he can learn to sleep in the crib at nap time then it'll make it easier at bedtime.

Both mine slept with me until I stopped feeding around 1 yr. I did cry it out but in short stints literally put them into cot left for a minute then 2 then 3. Only left them about 3 mins max just kept going in and saying mummy’s here go to sleep. Took my girl 5 nights took my boy 3 I think.

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Ok mine is 2.5 months and right now ge co sleeps with me cause i am packing to go back to where my husband is stationed at and when we get there he will have is own crib but it will be in our room and i would like some ideas for transitioning from my chest to crib and he is very dependent on a binky too right now especially cold ones cause he is teething