How to stop grandparents giving your baby chocolate?

My Mum loves being a Nanny. She is very involved and I love the bond she has with my 4 month old daughter.

She recently bought her an Easter egg. I reminded her that my little girl will not be trying chocolate until she is at least a year old. She said it wont hurt to 'have a little taste'. I then proceeded to tell her that this is not what I want and that I would rather we waited.

Later on that day my husband came home and my Mum then showed him the Easter egg and said 'it's for Pippa, I know she can't eat anything yet but when she can you can give her some as a treat'. She completely seemed to forget what I said earlier. I reminded her for the third time and she said 'don't be cruel'

What the hell. How can I ever trust her to babysit if shes acting like this. I know it's just chocolate but shes dismissing my opinion and it's really grating on me. She also keeps telling me my baby is hungry and ready for food. I'm exclusively breastfeeding her and it makes me feel a bit crappy that she keeps pushing food.

Anyone else got grandparents like this? It's driving me mental. I'm 100% eating the Easter egg btw

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Oh no I would really struggle with that!!!

My brother and his husband have often expressed the fact they think its cruel that my sister doesn't give her little ones sweets and chocolates, but she's just trying to get them more used to eating nutritious foods while they're young and developing their taste buds etc.

They don't know about sugary and processed foods so it's not like they're being deprived. They now love vegetables, beans, tofu etc and actively choose it over unhealthy foods because they genuinely prefer it, which is amazing!

I'll be doing the same with my little boy and I know I'll be having comments made, and I'm sure my MIL will do the same as your mum has. So hard when people feel like they have some sort of say on how you parent your child.

I think you just have to stand your ground and say these are my wishes and how I'm choosing to parent. Regardless of how you would do it please just respect my wishes for MY child

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Just say you’ll be eating it then lol because it will go off by the time she can have it!

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What makes her think bubs is hungry? A lot of what used to be thought of as signs are just developmental. The nhs say the digestive system isn’t ready until around 6 months. So baby will be fine on breast milk for now.
I would be furious about the chocolate thing. Your child. And she needs to respect how you parent and the choices you make. X

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If she can't respect your wishes as parent, then I definitely would agree that I wouldn't trust her to watch your LO later down the line.

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Just say no and set the boundary that if she feeds baby anything without your consent she won't be seeing baby until her behaviour changes.

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My mum keeps pushing me to start weening.... ive told her they have guildlines which im following "if you dont start now that baby will still be drinking milk at 18 from a bottle!" He turned 5 months on bloody friday 😡

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My in laws & my grandmother are like this (and he literally has a dairy allergy!) so they don’t get time with him unsupervised. Even if we’re in the same house, one of us is in the room with him if there’s ANY food around

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All our grandparents were obsessed about her not eating until she was 6 months. Every time I saw them they would ask if she was eating, every time she cried they would say it was because she was hungry. When I mentioned her waking up at night they would say it would stop if I fed her earlier. I honestly just tune it out.

I don't have an answer for the chocolate thing. Have you explained the reasons why you don't want her to have chocolate. I've told the grandparents we are keeping off chocolate/sweets for aslong as possible and then once we do start giving them we won't make a big deal out of it.

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I have a sister with 3 kids, a cousin with 1 and 1 myself. All aged nearly 2-6. I am the only one who has had restrictions on my child's eating. My sister and cousin happily gave their babies chocolates, juice, sweets. We have always been more strict. My son is almost 3 but still very rarely has a very small amount of chocolate. He got given an advent calander by his uncle and he still has it as we give him one as a treat for doing a poo on the potty. No juice, only milk or water, no sweets etc.
My family really struggled to understand at the beginning, especially my nan who has always been a boundary stomper and my mum struggled with her when we were kids and being raised the same way. I made it very clear that if anyone didn't respect my rules as a parent, they were not trusted around my child. That would be it. She realised I was being serious and has never broken the rules. He loves grapes, blueberries and raisins and he's over the moon when he gets a punnet as a treat.

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My girl was 4 months for her first Easter people got her chocolate. I just thanked them and ate the chocolate my self haha no way she having it that young when she’s wasn’t even eating any foods at all x

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I would just be blunt

If you can’t respect and obey with my rules please don’t have my child alone.

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This isn't a major issue, just wondering if I'm being a bit of an asshole.

• I do shift work, 5 out of 7 days, full-time.
• My partner works from home (mostly, sometimes he goes into the office) M-F, full-time.

Anyway, whenever I have a day off during the week he gets in his feelings when I make myself food (breakfast and lunch) but not him. His reason is he's working, I'm not - Which is fair but I've asked him how many times on a weekend has he gotten up, on his day off and made me breakfast and a lunch to take with me to work? You guessed it, 0.

So basically, just because I'm at home I don't think the responsibility to feed him should automatically fall on me when he manages to feed himself just fine while I'm at work.

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The issues in our relationship are mainly around a lack of sex and intimacy. I think the problem is that to feel turned on, I need to feel connected and wanted. My husband (being avoidant) will usually make jokes about being horny whereas I would want to have someone make me feel beautiful/sexy to get in the mood.
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Hi mums.
I'm a first time mum in my 40s to twin boys.They are almost 5 months old and the biggest miracle in my life!
I am struggling!!!
I'm pretty sure I have ppa as my pregnancy was a very high risk and all I remember was crying from anxiety of all the ifs!Thankfully even born at 35 weeks and skinny,didn't need iu time.
My husband is not helping much because he's always too busy with work.He will "look" after them usually between 8pm-12am so I can have a chance to sleep.
He expects me to just sleep when I touch the pillow,even though I hear tje babies crying and him don't really bother because most of the times he'll be on his laptop working.
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I am angry!!I am furious!!
I can't keep.up.with housework becauae someone alwaya neess me and most of the times they nap I either cook and clean tje kitchen,do laundry or try and take a quick nap.
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I spent all night awake because one of the babies had congested nose and we've been trying to reduce one fees at night.
I wanted to punch him!!He left and I started crying...I cry so much,even at 5 months pp...
I can't go on like this anymoreeeee...
The crying in my ears is constant..my head is always numb..I've gained so much weight and can't find the strength to get back on track..
Even if I try to.find a therapist to just talk,is it gonna help?I really don't know😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

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