I want another baby

I don’t think secretly getting pregnant without your partners agreement is the way to go. It’s not fair to him or your child. Marriage is built on trust and mutual decisions. While I want more multiple children and would feel the same as you, I think this is something that has to be agreed upon. If he refuses and you can’t get over wanting more than you need to decide what is more important: your marriage or more children. Besides abuse or severe addiction, not agreeing on children is probably the one thing I would end a marriage over. But I was extremely clear that I wanted a big family very early on and not to continue to date me if he didn’t agree. I’m not sure if this is something y’all had discussed or not. Maybe he changed his mind after the first. But either way, you both feel the way you do now. Maybe suggest counseling to discuss more in depth with a unbiased third party? I’m sorry you’re going through this. It would be very difficult for me so I understand.

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I have to agree 100%

I wasnt planning on secretly getting pregnant. I have told him before that I want another one. He knows. There is no issues between us. We definitely have talked about this. I'm just having thoughts of having another child.

I’m dying to have another baby so I can breastfeed again! Unfortunately, we are not in a place financially, mentally, physically...and in any other way ready for more children. The fights between the head & the heart am I right?

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Yeah

I think it’s totally normal to be experiencing these feeling especially when your child doesn’t feel like a baby anymore. Hang in there mama!

I always said I've wanted to wait 4-5 years before my second child, but when my daughter was a week old my husband suddenly wanted another less than two years apart, and it got me thinking of how much I loved having a younger brother so close to me in age. But we're not in the financial position that I'd like to be at before trying for another, and we're both in our early 20's, so no baby yet ☹️

Dealing. My husband says he doesn’t want anymore but I want at least 1 more.

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Same!! People will ask when we are popping out another one. I say I want another one but my husband only wants one. He knows I want another one

I didn't want a second baby and my husband wants 3 children. But, by the time my son turned 18 months old, I realized how much I missed having a newborn to hold. So, after much heart to heart I decided to have a second one. Mind can change over time. I wouldn't get too serious about the second baby. A one year old is still very precious and being a mom of two is very different so I'm told 😅😅

I don’t think it’s necessarily a bad thing but I think you should talk with your husband maybe you guys can agree on just one more.

I really want another baby (my daughter is 3 months now), but I’ve always known I want at least 2 kids. My boyfriend says “one and done” but the more I’ve talked to him about it, the more open to it he’s gotten. I just tell him I’ll ask agin in a year lol. I’m not ready yet, but I know I will be in a year or two. I want my kids fairly close together.

I totally understand wanting another child. Mine is 4 months old and I already want another but had told my husband a few months ago I wanted to wait till he was one before trying for another. It's normal to want another it's just hard when you both aren't on the same page. Don't give up, have you tried talking to him? Let him know how your feeling? He might come around. There's always the possibility of another unplanned little blessing.

I would suggest waiting. 2 under 2 is hard as hell I would wait another 2 years. But definitely after that I would say do whatever you want. Just enjoy ur baby right now.

It’s not uncommon to feel that way. When my baby was 3 months old I just missed being pregnant. It was such a special experience. She’s 6 months now and I really want another one. Financially..... I see parents do it all the time. Growing up Hispanic, you always find a way to parent and eat. I’m really just waiting to loose more weight before trying again. Good luck!!!

I have 2 under 2 and I love it. My sons are 19 months apart to the day. My oldest will be 2 at the end of this month and my youngest will be 5 months on his birthday. It's hard. Really hard. But I absolutely wouldn't do it differently. If you want it, sit down and discuss it with your husband.

Talk to your hubby about itI was in your shoes hubby was happy with our 2 boys but we discussed it and decided to wait a year we did went on to have an angel son and finally our daughter and both of us decided we wre complete as a family. Come to a compromise agree to revisit the subject in 6 months in the meantime fo preparations for adding another child i.e. finances

I have wanted another baby for a long time. Unfortunately, I’m 44 and the chances of me conceiving at this point are slim to none. My fiancé has a 23-year-old and I have an 11-year-old. It definitely doesn’t look like it is in our cards. But I do feel your pain

I hear what you are saying... I understand that you want another baby. But he's telling you that all he want is one. That's a big sign he already gave you. Is bad already that you are both missing out on great sex, imagine you with another baby and then he leaves No good. Just have patience

It's not a bad thing, but keep communication open with your husband. It's the most important thing in a marriage. If you're not having sex as much, that could be a reason why he may not want another kid, because kids do slow that part of life down. I'm not saying it IS the reason though, I only mention it because it seemed important since you mentioned it. Sex is important to any relationship. I want another one already and my son is 9 months. My husband seems adamant on only having one since my last pregnancy complications relating to my new RRMS diagnosis. I didn't know that was a huge worry to him until we talked.