Some Real Advice

Let me preface this by saying; my husband and I have always had a loving and caring relationship. He has always gone out of his way to make sure I'm okay, and that I have everything I need. The reason I fell in love with him was because he was such an empathic, loving, caring soul. He made me feel like I was finally home. However, ever since having our daughter, things have changed drastically. We've had many conversations about our needs, and whenever we talk about things needing to change, I see him making efforts, but eventually, I have to pick up the slack again. In the first few months of our daughter being born, he was very helpful. He slowly stopped waking up at night to help me feed her (it's all on me now). Now our daughter is almost a year old, and he's back at work. It feels like he thinks he doesn't have a responsibility towards our daughter anymore, since he's working. He has a one track mind, and when all of his focus goes into one thing (work), he neglects everything else (family + chores etc.). I wouldn't mind this so much if I wasn't working too. I have a job, I'm doing school part-time, I look after our child, I cook, I clean, I do laundry, etc. It's all getting too overwhelming. I sometimes wonder if I would just be better off doing it myself. The only thing is, I won't be able to afford a place to stay with my income alone. We are just getting by, paycheque to paycheque, as it is. The cherry on top is his attitude. He's not appreciative of anything I do, and always nitpicks or critiques the way I do things (this has even happened in front of others at a party - which I voiced to him, and he said he would never do again). He smokes weed at the end of the day, and if he doesn't have a chance to smoke, he is absolutely intolerable. He even had a blow-up, where he was yelling, cussing, swearing. He promised that would never happen again. I don't want to give up on the relationship just yet, because I know this phase of life is supposed to be tough, but I don't know if it's really worth it. Our sex life is 0. There is no more passion or Intimacy. He also acts like he is doing me a favour looking after our child, and at the end of the day, he just wants to get high and watch TV. His idea of spending time with our child is putting on the TV for her to watch.