I need a Christian input.

Before my husband and I got together he found out that two of the girls he was messing around with got pregnant and kept the babies without telling him. One was hella messy about it because she didn’t like that we got together and messaged his first bbymma and the bbymma told their oldest son who was 14 at the time that he had another child and wasn’t in her life. We tried to set up a meet up with girl #3 and she said no because he was unstable. Her words not mine. The girl #4 didn’t say anything either until she was giving birth and followed up with child support. She said if you ain’t going to be in her life then just pay for child support. Honestly I’ve already dealt with him having a kid with someone else girl #1. But he was in a relationship with her for about 5 years before me and I knew that. I was okay with it but she made my life miserable. Now he has two other kids that are about 1 year older than our youngest. Personally I can’t deal with the drama. And I don’t want to be an ahole. I was honest and told him I can’t be with him if he chooses to be in their lives because they are so little. Both are about 3-4 years old. Plus my two plus his oldest. I just can’t. When I ask him if he would accept me with kids from another man he says he wouldn’t accept me with kids with another man. So how is it okay to push these kids on me when I know he wouldn’t accept me with kids from another man? Help please!! I’m torn.

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This is indeed a very very difficult situation and I can understand your fear and your frustration. However the bible does tell us that all children are a gift from god and we have to trust in God’s plan and will for us. The reality is that all these children are siblings and they are innocent and they are here as God intended them to be. I would probably firstly seek council from your Christian elders/ pastor for spiritual guidance and pray and ask the lord to guide you and to be patient. It’s easy to get lost in the hindsight of things and let our emotions and heart control us but we have to focus on the big picture and plan god has for us. We can’t change the past and we don’t know what the future holds but and we can’t control what others choose to do or act but we have to be the salt of the earth and the light. This is a hard thing to do but the narrow way isn’t easy as Christians we know this. Don’t follow your heart but pray ❤️

@Kerianne Gee I’ve prayed so much on this and I get so frustrated because I can’t hear God as I usually feel like I do. The type of turmoil one of the girls is is just really messy. She even dragged my stepson into it and hurt him greatly. I know kids don’t have fault in their parents fornication but why hurt the kids when the outcome wasn’t that of what you expected? It’s really hard to take in someone’s kids that you know maliciously will hurt those around you for their own satisfaction.

I am so sorry you’re going through this, this world is so fallen and it’s times like this where our faith is truly tested. Be encouraged that God will be glorified through this. I find that during my darkness times and when I am praying and seeking god earnestly for answers is when I feel he is so distant from me and it’s only when I give up and surrender is when I hear him. I think it’s because although I was seeking him and praying I wasn’t fully ready to hear him because I had an outcome in my head of what I wanted to happen and how I wanted this problem to be resolved and that isn’t trusting him or surrendering. Find some quiet time and fully surrender and ask for strength to go through this because sometimes the answer isn’t what we hoped for ❤️ Everytime I go through hard times I read the book of Job. He is for you and he is with you, he will not abandon you and he will not forsake you. He loves you ❤️