When does this feeling go away?

I relate and I hope it gets better for you soon!

That sucks! Parents should be equally involved no matter who works. Parenting should be shared! I guess maybe it depends on whether he will be receptive but maybe tell him it’s not enough! And you just really need some help because it’s especially difficult? I had that talk with my husband when my son was going through a really tough sleeping patch and now he gets home, feeds him, bathes him and does his whole bedtime routine so I can have some time to myself before night duty.

I’m really sorry you’re struggling right now. It definitely isn’t okay he’s not putting in any effort. If roles were swapped he would still fully expect you to come home and help 100% so why wouldn’t he? If you want a bond with your child like a real genuine bond you have to be there for everything and be as hands on in raising them as possible. You can’t come in for playtime or when they’re calm and hand them off when fussy yet expect your child to be comfortable with you solo caring for them or comforting them. Hopefully he gets some sense knocked into him because you work 24/7 with no break and deserve to be able to have some downtime when your partner gets home

i can relate to a degree. my boyfriend and i were figuring things out. learning the ropes. things came more naturally to me and i’m a control freak so if things aren’t done MY WAY it gets to me so bad so i ended up doing EVERYTHING. feeding her, bathing her, cleaning the house, cooking, laundry, pumping on top of all of that. i became more than a default parent. my daughter got so velcroed to me that she would start screaming and crying when i handed her to her dad. let alone walk out of a room. i was so run down. beat up. tired. hungry. dirty and just mentally unwell. i was having breakdowns frequently. i was fighting with him over the tiniest of things. it wasn’t his fault. i allowed all it without realizing it bc the responsibility of being a mother kicked into high gear and became FIRST nature to me. i had to sit down with him and explain to him that this simply can’t be. he’s a parent too. it took so much out of me to sit back and let him learn too. it was so hard.

this doesn’t come natural to men and i really had to help him become a parent even though i was still “learning” too. it does get better. one way or another. (in my situation) my boyfriend was receptive to the talks we’ve had bc he wasn’t doing it on purpose. after a while of helping him learn to do things on his own, i left him home alone with the baby for TWO HOURS… i came home and he said “i tip my hat to you and have a new found respect for you and just mothers in general. i couldn’t do this all day everyday. this is hard. i can’t get anything done. i can’t even go pee quick. idk how you do it, but you do and you’re an amazing woman and mother for that.” inside i grinned like the grinch, but it felt good to know he finally saw things through my lens. things got better afterwards. things will get better babes🤍

sorry for the long rant. 🙂

My husband is the same I got a job and he complained about how he can't do anything anymore like going out and having fun or taking showers when I'm at work I couldn't say anything I was just like what do you think I do all day I can't shower or eat without holding him I'm a milk factory too and I feel like a cow and I haven't seen any of my friends in months my only hobby is watching anime and putting things together I have to wash bottles and clean up after everyone else too