Depression

I’m 30 weeks pregnant and during all this time I have had many problems with the baby’s dad and I have been very sad, crying and getting angry every day, I feel depressed.

After each episode of anger and sadness I feel very guilty because I know I hurt my baby, he can feel my sadness. I feel guilty that my baby might have emotional problems when he is born, including autism or other mental disorders.

I just need a little comfort from moms who also suffered a lot during pregnancy and to tell me that they now have physically and emotionally healthy kids, I need a little hope that maybe I didn't hurt my baby that much.

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I went through a fuck load when I was pregnant, my baby is only 2 months but I honestly can say I have never seen a baby so happy and smiley in all my life😂x

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my pregnancy was absolutely MISERABLE bc of my baby’s father. he would tell me stuff just to hurt my feelings. He told me my stretch marks were gross, that I looked like someone we know that is very obese, would post snapchat stories at the bar with girls and told me that my nursery for the baby was ugly. he also randomly told me that he was seeing someone and had been for a while. on top of steady saying he didn’t know that the baby was for sure his so that he wasn’t helping financially. (he’s literally in his late 20’s but acts 18)(update: we got the test and he STILL isn’t). i wish i wouldn’t have let it get to me so much because now i don’t ever want to have another pregnancy so i don’t experience that again. BUT my baby girl was born very healthy and happy & changed my life for the better!!

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I was very depressed and got admitted to the Pysch ward in my first trimester. Once my mental health started getting better he cheated on me. I felt guilty too like you because my mom would tell me to stop crying or the baby would feel sad. Or she would say don’t feel resentment or the baby will look and act like the father. Honestly having feelings and being depressed is normal and don’t feel guilty for it. It’s hard to not feel depressed and stressed when you’re pregnant and at a vulnerable state. You’re not hurting your baby and your baby will be fine. Just try your best to take care of yourself and rest. Vent all you want to feel better and I hope everything goes well

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