Sneaky and idk how to bring it up

My partner keeps downloading IG when I’m not around and deletes it when I’m around, I’ve noticed this in the past one day it’s there one day it’s not, it was there the other day (when I was at work) then he deleted it yesterday when I was home , today been at work I saw he had it when he swiped, so putting our LO to bed I said can she watch her programme on your phone I’ll put it on charge when she falls asleep … he sort of like hesitated abit, stood up (like he needed to delete it without me seeing) so I left the room and he gave her the phone and went sleep… he’s sleeping now and there’s no IG.. I never had a problem with this in the past but now it’s bugging me and idk how to voice my concerns without sounding like a psycho with the evidence I have towards it
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Make an Instagram and catch when he has one and say “babe I didn’t know you had an Instagram accept my follow request!”

@Alyson yooo, I second that 🤣🤣

@Amanda 💁🏻‍♀️💁🏻‍♀️🕵🏼‍♂️🕵🏼‍♂️

Or just redownload it. If it’s an iPhone it will automatically save the info even if deleted. So, logging back in you can see what he’s hiding.

If he has an iPhone and you know his passcode, go to settings and look at his saved passwords. Then login to Instagram from your phone.

Download it and look at it in his phone lol

Then tell us what you saw. Screenshot it 👀

Some of these comments 😂 wow… just wow

I’ve just had the convo with him, he apologised and said “i was only looking for a friend I promise it’s not what it looks like just bad timing” 🤯 but I just can’t settle with that, it’s been going on for time it’s not just “bad timing” when I enter the room it’s gone, when I leave it’s there? Might ask him if I can log on tomorrow to keep an eye coz he’s got me looking paranoid everyday, is it controlling if I ask him for his account? I literally just wanna know what’s up when I’m not around, why are men like thisssssss I’m just done looking stupid for being upset he said he understands why I’m paranoid ect and how it does look bad but idk I just don’t believe it

@Bri & @Tierra I’ve had so many thoughts about downloading it but it’s connected to his Facebook and I don’t want him getting a Facebook notification saying his IG is logged in 😫, he sometimes gets random notifications saying someone’s attempted to log into accounts and he changes his passwords

Who cares if he sees it lol he's clearly doing something

This is the thing..why aren't you comfortable enough to confront him? I'd think the relationship you're in isn't a good one if you can't open up right away about stuff like that..or anything really

Well to be honest telling him you know about it before finding evidence of anything bad messed up the whole detective mcgruff plan 😑. IF he’s doing something he’s going to tell the other person so even if you have the account now it won’t matter they will move on to snap chat WhatsApp or whatever else these clowns use.

Oops sorry just read what you said...ya he isn't looking for friends. He's looking for a side piece and the fact that he didn't show you his instagram so you can look at his msgs shows he's hiding it. Just leave

He's cheating on you 1000% sure

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I checked the IG account when it was downloaded the other day before he deleted it there aren’t any messages but he had a habit of constantly searching women up to 💦 over this is why he deleted it in the first place after I’d seen it quite often and it was affecting out sexlife , I’m not concerned about cheating as I’ve seen for myself but ithink he’s just doing this again tbh but on the sly coz his searches are always cleared again he did this in the past

I don't buy it. He could easily delete his history on his internet browser. Why download a messaging app to get off. He told you he was "looking for a friend" So he's going on Instagram and messaging men to talk and possibly hang out? Open your eyes girl! You're being fooled.

@Bri I normally wouldn’t agree that we can be sure he is cheating but 100% this isn’t right 🫣😩 he is doing something he knows he shouldn’t be doing, whatever that thing is. I’d leave it a few weeks till he gets comfortable and then ask to look at his phone. I’ve never been through my husbands phone though so I’m not even sure it’s worth it if you can’t trust them in any case

I personally think he’s messaging someone and he doesn’t want the notifications popping up when you’re there so he deletes the app. I’d 100% be checking when he’s asleep. Only wish you hadn’t said anything as now he’s probably cleaned up and you won’t find much!

100 percent hiding something from you . If he's deleted it definitely something going on he don't want you to see .

@Mia yup. He cleaned all traces of it. I feel like it's not even worth checking at this point.

And even if you didn't find anything. He was trying to seek pleasure elsewhere

I recon what he’s told you is separate to what he’s doing… looking for a friend could be looking for someone he knows… it’s highly likely he thinks that’s acceptable. The fact there are no messages indicates OPs theory… he’s probably using the app to check out women’s profiles to 💦 there are porn bots on instagram and tonnes of porn related content so this way he doesn’t have to clear his history on safari and get caught out or embarassed like before. Talk 👏🏽 to 👏🏽 your 👏🏽 man None of us here know you or your relationship. Talk to him about what you know but ask him in a non offensive way and you’ll get your answer… ‘can i talk to you about something that has been bothering me’….’ I’ve noticed XYZ… and i know you said ABC but it doesn’t make any sense and it’s making me anxious that you are doing something you feel you need to hide …. Why do you have IG and keep deleting it? To meet friends makes no sense as you would just keep the app not delete it… please tell me the truth?… Good luck!

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