Overwhelmed
I’m a mother of a 2 year old and a 7 week old. I am very fortunate to have help with childcare Monday through Friday, that being said I’m still feeling very tired and overwhelmed. My husband works Monday through Friday outside of the home so there are several hours where I have both girls alone. It’s not the end of the world or anything but my older daughter is starting to reject me. She doesn’t want me to play with her, doesn’t want my hugs, and only wants dad when he gets home. Today she even wanted snuggles from her nanny and not me. While I know this is just a phase, it still hurts so bad. On top of all that, my youngest is going through a developmental leap and has witching hours from 6:30-11. So I’m left trying to console her while my husband and older daughter play. It’s also on me to make dinner which I haven’t gotten to that cause my oldest was getting into everything then my youngest was crying. Finally my husband got home and I asked for a simple glass of water while I have my hands full feeding the baby…. That was an hour ago and still no water. Sometimes I just want to give up.
Show your support
@Kim thank you so much!!! Just having someone tell me I’m not alone and it’s all temporary and normal is a big help. 🤗
I’ve come to the realization that even though I have help, it’s okay to admit that it still isn’t enough sometimes. That feeling doesn’t mean ingratitude, like you said motherhood is incredibly overwhelming. All of those things you mentioned are difficult on their own; let alone all at once. Your oldest rejecting you is a phase, but that doesn’t make it hurt any less. Sending you love, mama. I know it’s difficult. Your youngest going through the thick of witching hour, another phase that will end, doesn’t make it any less difficult in the moment. I’ve been there. You’re not alone! If you have friends and family nearby, don’t be ashamed to ask for help. To request dinner every now and then. I know not everyone has help nearby, but if you do, I encourage you to lean into it! I know it’s irritating to need to remind him of the single thing you asked for, so to avoid sounding spiteful, I’d say to my husband “Here’s your invitation to get me some water” With you in the thick of it 💕