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You’re not bitter. It’s weird for someone to take a toddler outside during late hours too. Your family should respect your boundaries and understand that your toddler needs to sleep early. They need your permission to take your toddler outside and it should be during the daytime

@Nathalie THANK YOU! i don't understand their obsession with taking him out everywhere during all hours of the day it's annoying asf and when i say something they try to gaslight me saying he barely goes out anyway like SO? he's fucking 4 years old tf

Where are you when this happens? Not to blame you or anything, but are they literally taking him without your knowledge. Do you live with family? Do they put him to bed at night?

I live with them and I'm literally fighting with them every night they decide to take him out about this, and once my son hears they're taking him outside he'll start screaming too if they don't actually do it so it's literally a mess everytime bc they're all against me and I can't do nothing about it & i try to get him to sleep early but by the time they decide to do that i can't do it anymore bc now he's energetic from being outside for a few.

Have you spoken to them directly

Can you move out? I cut contact with mine because they wouldn’t agree to stopping their toxic behaviour and working on themselves to choose us over alcohol (no chance lol) l. I’d definitely be moving out and considering what they add to my life

In all honesty; the next time they try to do that and you tell them no or they do it without your permission; call the cops. Tell them your child is missing. Nobody asked you to take him out. It’s your child. Not theirs.

I don’t understand are they physically taking him from you? Man I would lock myself in my room with my baby. Work on a plan to move out .

Idk maybe I just have a different view they basically just hanging out with him outside like on the porch but it's past his bedtime?

@Baby kk they're taking him outside to go on errands like to Target/Grocery store which i wouldn't mind if it was early but at 9/10 pm is just crazy to me also last night was EXTREMELY windy & gusty i should probably add that they always want to do this when the weather is really bad too like when it's raining/windy/cold outside and then my son gets sick and he gets kicked out of school and i cant go to work because of this

@Daisy They don't take me seriously they think they can just do whatever they want with my son & i'm planning too but moving out and getting ur own place in nyc is so damn hard everything is so expensive ugh

@Rudy Yes they are but I can't do that bc then my son will tantrum and start screaming for hours & won't fall asleep till way later

I think you should consider a shelter. I live in nyc too and it’s really impossible to find housing here, so I understand completely. Do you work?

@Monét Yes i'm a bus monitor im working on getting my CDL to start driving buses also im in college too and tbh i keep considering it just to get away from them is there any shelters you recommend? Also what's the process to apply to a shelter with a child too

Oh man they are overstepping way too much. Your family doesn’t respect you as a mother. It’s their perception of you that needs to be changed in order to fix it. Maybe have a talk with them again (call a family meeting) write it down so you can get your points across and ask them to listen before saying anything. I’m hoping you can move out. 💕

Honestly you can go to a dv shelter and say you’re trying to get away from your family because they’re abusive and you’re worried for your safety. They won’t get in any legal trouble dw. Or you can go to a family shelter. The fb shelters are typically more discreet and accommodating. You would go to PATH in the Bronx

This is something similar to baby daddy #2. He is a first time father/ absent father along with his side of the family. They want to do things their way and disregard what I have to say/ how I do things. I have decided to put my foot down because mom knows best. And not only that WHO ARE YOU GUYS TO DECIDE WHAT, WHERE AND HOW TO DO THINGS WHEN IT COMES TO MY CHILD all while being absent to my kid. I told them that when they decide to respect my word. And come to an agreement when it comes to my child THEN they can spend time with my kid. But until then I’d be damned to let anybody family or not tell me what I should or shouldn’t do with my child. 💯

@Yesenia that's exactly my issue too my mom is a first time grandmother so she don't know how to act with my son bc its her first it's unbearable she spoiled him way too much in the beginning & now i have to deal with my son misbehaving bc he never got told no & was always spoiled like i literally have to leave doctor appointments crying bc my son won't listen to anyone & will make a huge ass scene in public