Feeling down!

I feel like I’m 29 years old and I haven’t done enough with my life. I have beautiful children and I’m married. But that doesn’t make me feel like I am full. Lately I am realizing that I feel alone. When I mean alone I only have my children and husband, and I love that don’t get me wrong, but I don’t have no one else to talk to, no friends(maybe like 2 and over the years we got more apart) no family members or a good relationship with my adopted mother. I do feel that I need to heal from childhood and other things, and that I might be broken because it seems that I can’t be fully happy and I want to be a healthy person, I have days where everything is ok. But then this week my husband went away for few days for a work thing and I’ve been in my head thinking that all I have is him. My life revolves around him and my kids. I have lost myself and I don’t know how to change it. I know I need a therapist for sure. I already went to my first appointment. I am eating healthy and doing exercise because I also feel insecure with my belly area, I am listening to motivational podcast and neuroscience but I am a mess still in my head . I told my husband the other day “I’m sorry that I am a mess” because I get stressed out so fast and overwhelmed. I’m also 10 month postpartum not sure if I have postpartum depression or depression or something… I never been diagnosed even tho I feel that I do suffer from that. I do have anxiety but no diagnosed either. Anyone know how can I start. I want to be the best mom for my children and best wife, I don’t want to ruin what I am building because of my thoughts.

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Over supply of milk

I am nearly 5weeks postpartum and I have such a big over supply of BM.
Has anyone donated / sold their supply, if so where do you recommend for this?

AITA

In the uk there is an outbreak of meningitis, in a specific area mainly. My BD has family from that area and decided to go and meet up with them, I said if he does then he cannot have contact with the kids for 7-10 days after incase he picks anything up. Am I being over dramatic? I reallyyy don’t want my young kids getting anything serious

Baby clothes

Just out of curiosity, why do parents love zipper onesies?

Don’t get me wrong, I tried zipper ones it’s easy to zip in and out when putting it on the first time and taking it out, but I find it difficult when changing diapers especially when baby is asleep.

I prefer those kimono style buttons where it’s easy to button or too down button with crotch snaps.

Is everyone thinking the same or different? Lol

This might rattle some people

Ok, this might get a bit long, and a bit bumpy, so get comfy and buckle up.

So about a week or 2 ago, there was a post on here regarding sleepovers. Not letting their child go to them as you can't trust who'll be at the house etc.

Now, given recent incidents in nurseries and schools, plus my own experience back in the 90s, I am more concerned about sending my child to nursery and later school than I am to a friend's house for a sleep over.

The other day a man was jailed for abusing children at the nursery he worked at. A woman has been arrested for sleeping with an underage boy and then getting pregnant by a different underage boy while on bail for the first offence.

Young girls and boys get sexually harassed and bullied when at school, not all of them. But more than you think. And not just by other kids, but by adults who we as parents are trusting to look after our kids.

A sleepover, is a more controlled environment, with only a handful of people coming into contact with your child. A school, a club etc there can be 100s of people coming into contact with your child.

I was targeted at 7 years old by the owner of a prominent private school. Thankfully, I wasn't SA'd. In year 5 of primary school, I started to develop early, I was harassed by the boys and teachers made remarks about how my uniform didn't fit right, always "adjusting it" around my chest and legs.

Years 7-9 of secondary school were hell. But it was all under the guise of "we're just messing around". A teacher twanging my exposed bra strap (none uniform day) is not "messing around".

Boys pinning me down trying to rip open my shirt to see my breasts.

I fear for my daughter. I hope she takes after my father's family, flat chested.

We need to educate all our children, what is acceptable behaviour. And to come to us, as their parents should ANYTHING happen.

Car seat

No idea which car seat to get next. Please hit me with your recommendations, 1year+ (preferably rear facing or 360). Thank you 🫶🏻

At this point I’m not enjoying motherhood

My 22 month old is horrendous at the moment🫣 biting, hitting, pushing, pulling and shoving not only adults but children he also wants what other children have and will just snatch it away from them.

We repeat ‘nice hands’ ‘be gentle’ ‘let’s share’ etc

But how do I make him understand what he’s doing isn’t very nice? At the end of the day I feel like I’ve just been saying his name all day and nothing else.

What can I do?