Am I being petty?

So my boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years. We have a 3 year old together and I have an 11 year old. We are in the verge of leaving each other because he said I am not “wifey material.” Insight story: I am unemployed and go to school but I am paying my own bills from my savings account. He offered to help but I had to pay him back with my income tax. He said he was looking at it as an investment ( I thought it was stupid) I need 1 more year to graduate and he wasn’t willing to help out without thinking about himself. When I try to put rules to my kids eating habits and bed time, we do it but when it’s not convinient to him, it’s okay. Today he got mad because I wasn’t putting my 3 year old to sleep by 9:30 and he told me he needed help with that. I do clean and cook but not like 100% he does cleaning, too and works full time at home. The reason why I’m not on top of things it’s because he isn’t hubby material and I was fine with that but now he wants to throw it in my face and say I’m not. He has an alcoholic problem and gets buzzed/drunk most of the time which I’ve told him to stop and he doesn’t respect it. So me being petty I don’t do things as fast as he wants me to do them like cleaning. Yet he leaves our restroom with poop stains in the toilet and mold in the shower and he uses that shower and guess who cleans it, me! I brought it up and he got mad. Said I don’t work and do nothing all day which is fine but it I was taken care of I would take care of him too. I think I just need advice if I’m wrong or not for being petty.