Step son (4)
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Personally it was a once off. He got warned and everyone has moved on. If he continued to use the word after being warned then that’s different but that’s just me. I guess for me it depends what the behaviour in terms of the punishment. May be worth discussing it though so you are both on the same page. At 4 he might not know that it’s a swear word or what it means. He just knows he’s calling her a name.
Shouting is never a good way to show a child not to be unkind with words, as you’d be doing the same thing. If it’s the first time I think saying don’t ever say that again is fine, if it happens or has happened before then I would set a punishment
Also 4 year olds don’t know what dickhead means
He’s four, seriously?! Talking about someone else’s child like this and saying how you’d shout at him etc on an app is not right. Grow up. He won’t know the meaning
Shouting no. Taking the tablet not yet. I think both parents were wrong. He should have been spoken to about how that’s a bad bad word and we don’t ever use that language. If we do use that language there will be consequences like… the tablet getting taken away.
Everyone saying he doesn’t know what the word means because he’s 4 he absolutely does know what it means as my partner said it once by mistake and he said “ that’s a bad word” this is my 11 month old daughter being called a dickhead for no reason whatsoever so yes punishment is necessary as his behaviour is bad overall.
@Xena he knows it’s a bad word, but he doesn’t know what dickhead means. It sounds like your partner calls people dickheads if I’m being honest, and he’s probably done it more than once if it’s in the 4 year olds brain to use as a word to describe people misbehaving (ur daughter tapping on his tablet). If he’s been told before about not using bad language than have a talk with your partner. Maybe he is accepting of the behavior but you are not and you need to know he has your back if you take his tablet away. This will be a battle for you because you have to be consistent. You can’t get mad just because he did it to your daughter. You will have to consistently guide him throughout any bad behavior. Or he will call everyone else dickheads cause he can get away with it, just not the baby.
Why are you using age? They are both kids and they are both at different learning levels. He may know what it means but you gotta see it's no harm there just a learning thing.
Shouting at someone else's kid is not okay. Especially from what you mention, it seems he learned that from his father so you need to discuss with him about use of language around his both kids as he probably just knows this is bad word to take out frustration but doesn't exactly know how bad.
So you can excuse your partner using that language once around a child, but can't excuse the child from using it around your daughter once? Bizarre that the 4 year old is held to a higher standard than his dad. My 5 yo doesn't know that word because nobody uses that kind of language around him. Problem solved. A 4 year old does not understand the connotation of that word. The infant also didn't suffer any harm because they don't know what that means or what happened. Seems like your partner handled it well enough by reminding the child not to say that especially since he is the one that created the problem in the first place. That's the real issue if you're so offended by that word.
Fucked off is the word🤣 Should have confiscated his tablet without the screaming ofc 🙄 lol if that was me I would have called him and his father dick heads and his mum a twat 🤣 but then I'm an adult now so have to go about it a mature way
Sounds like there is no discipline from either parent. He had to have learned it from somewhere whether it be school or a family member, especially putting it in a sentence like that. I don't know what kind of relationship you have with the BM but maybe bring it up to her. When he is at your house he needs to respect your rules and everyone under that roof. If you've got to be the one to discipline just do it. But only do that after having a convo with both BM and dad. That way if anything happens they know and won't be shocked if your step son comes whining to them saying you punished him. (I don't mean spanking, like raising your voice and taking the tablet away etc....)