The threenager tantrums 😭

Anyone else struggling?? It seems constant these days!

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Omg I thought it was just me. Our girl doesn’t listen and tantrums allll the time. I had to apologize in the air for all the parents I bad mouth before kids saying they have no control. Yep that feels like me and we do time out. I walk away we do everything to keep this girl in line. #epicfail. It’s these quarantine babies. 🤣🤣🤣.

Seriously her communication is off the charts. When I can get her to tell me what’s going on we can work through it and get things resolved but even that has been a challenge lately.

Hang in there mama. This too shall pass

Goodness yes and it’s been exhausting 😂😭

Omg my son’s tantrums!!! Multiple tantrums a day that are loudddd for any little thing that doesn’t go his way. God knows what my neighbours must think I’m doing to my kids with how loud he shouts and screams!!! 🫠 oh he’s also physical too, he hits and kicks when he’s pissed off. 🫠

yes! Our son is above average for speech and vocabulary and he communicates very well, but he takes after his parents and shuts down when he’s upset. Ugh it has been a struggle 😂 I’ve tried it all!! Sadly at a point where I have to ignore him sometimes because I can’t find the willpower to handle it any other way.

oh gosh, EXACTLY SAME! I am like shhhhh our neighbors gonna call CPS! 😂 sounds like I’m torturing him.

I’m the sameeee!!! 🫣🫣🫣🫣 I honestly don’t know what to do sometimes. I feel bad for how I react sometimes.

I feel ya. He just threw a terrible tantrum in target a few minutes ago and was yelling “stop hurting me! Don’t hurt me!” 🤦‍♀️ I was holding his hand

ooooh no. That’s my fear. I told her I can’t take her anywhere if she doesn’t stop being a mean girl. Humph

Does anyone in the Nov 2020 babies chat have any tips or advice that work? I’ve started telling her she is a nice girl and when I see the bad behavior say that’s not being a nice girl. It helps a little but more reactive that proactive.

for my son honestly if something is going to work it’s getting down and hugging him, acknowledging why he’s upset (if I know why 😂) and then go from there. Unfortunately sometimes you just have to let the tantrum ride out first then go back and acknowledge the feeling. And I wish they would just be able to be avoidable, but they aren’t. Usually there’s a need but sometimes it’s really just something I can’t help with at the moment. Like he’s tired and needs a nap or he’s hungry but we aren’t in a place or time to eat.

I actually read not to use terms like nice girl/boy or mean girl/boy, because it makes them feel bad. It’s hard though 😑 I definitely say “ugh you’re so mean!” Or “that was so nice!”/“you’re not being nice” lol

I have a hard time regulating my emotions sometimes because I just wasn’t raised expressing them. I was definitely taught to suppress them! If anything, I’m learning with him! And it’s nobody’s fault. Nobody is perfect. As a parent though I definitely try my hardest to process my emotions before I react to things (which can be hard!)
I always own up to my reactions and apologize if I know I’ve reacted poorly. That way at least my kids know that I am responsible for my reactions, not them.

the only thing that seems to work for me is distracting him. Like asking him a question to make him think of something else. If he’s tired then nothing works. I’m pregnant so I’m ashamed to admit I’ve actually bribed him with a popsicle to calm down. I know it is a terrible move but they are the healthy all fruit ones and it worked. 😭I’m sure there’s some punishment I’ll serve for that in the future. lol. I’ve been really struggling this pregnancy and parenting eek

bless you. I couldn’t imagine having a 3 year old and pregnant

Yess omg I just feel like I am about to loose my mind it’s like yesterday I came home with a headache and all my child wants to do is be loud I am like please stop being so loud

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Over supply of milk

I am nearly 5weeks postpartum and I have such a big over supply of BM.
Has anyone donated / sold their supply, if so where do you recommend for this?

AITA

In the uk there is an outbreak of meningitis, in a specific area mainly. My BD has family from that area and decided to go and meet up with them, I said if he does then he cannot have contact with the kids for 7-10 days after incase he picks anything up. Am I being over dramatic? I reallyyy don’t want my young kids getting anything serious

I think its fair

Me and my partner agreed to sleep in 1 day of the weekend.
He doesn't find it fair to look after both kids (my 4 year old isnt his) while i sleep so he looks after the baby while i sleep and my toddlers at his dads and ill look after both the next day.
Straightaway it was pretty unfair as i let him sleep in until he wakes up 10-12
He wakes me up when baby starts fussing because he wants milk (doesnt need it)
I cant pump as i dont supply enough.
So i get woken at 9/9:30 to feed baby then i get him sleep then theres no point sleeping in as my toddlers being dropped off.
I also find it unfair that i get both kids to sleep most night, i get my toddler to sleep everyday hes home (4/5days) and i get my baby to sleep most nights with the exception of maybe twice a month as his dad struggless then about 95% of his thru the day naps.
I have also been unwell for a few months (tumor scare) and am waiting 18 weeks to see a specialist so im obviously petrified for that, so unbelievably tired and alot of aches and pains, specifically these pounding headaches ive been having.
After i had been up til 11:30 getting both kids to sleep lastnight and my partner falling asleep at 10 then him ignoring the baby cries all morning until my toddler woke up im fed up slammed to door and rold him not to expect to sleep in unless he gets the baby to sleep the night b4.
I keep having issues with him not feeling the wet from baby being sick or weeing himself or being able to smell it do about 98% of the time hes given to me i have to clean him up n change him.
Including at night, we agreed my partner would change nappies (1 a night at 5am) while i feed (2,4,5,6:30) but every night when i get him hes pissed through and my partner gets annoyed when i wake him up n moan about it.
Then the morning after hes annoyed at how much washing there is (thats his job) and moans about how often i change myself (baby constantly shits thru and sicks on me) and baby
Honestly im just so tired all the time

Baby clothes

Just out of curiosity, why do parents love zipper onesies?

Don’t get me wrong, I tried zipper ones it’s easy to zip in and out when putting it on the first time and taking it out, but I find it difficult when changing diapers especially when baby is asleep.

I prefer those kimono style buttons where it’s easy to button or too down button with crotch snaps.

Is everyone thinking the same or different? Lol

This might rattle some people

Ok, this might get a bit long, and a bit bumpy, so get comfy and buckle up.

So about a week or 2 ago, there was a post on here regarding sleepovers. Not letting their child go to them as you can't trust who'll be at the house etc.

Now, given recent incidents in nurseries and schools, plus my own experience back in the 90s, I am more concerned about sending my child to nursery and later school than I am to a friend's house for a sleep over.

The other day a man was jailed for abusing children at the nursery he worked at. A woman has been arrested for sleeping with an underage boy and then getting pregnant by a different underage boy while on bail for the first offence.

Young girls and boys get sexually harassed and bullied when at school, not all of them. But more than you think. And not just by other kids, but by adults who we as parents are trusting to look after our kids.

A sleepover, is a more controlled environment, with only a handful of people coming into contact with your child. A school, a club etc there can be 100s of people coming into contact with your child.

I was targeted at 7 years old by the owner of a prominent private school. Thankfully, I wasn't SA'd. In year 5 of primary school, I started to develop early, I was harassed by the boys and teachers made remarks about how my uniform didn't fit right, always "adjusting it" around my chest and legs.

Years 7-9 of secondary school were hell. But it was all under the guise of "we're just messing around". A teacher twanging my exposed bra strap (none uniform day) is not "messing around".

Boys pinning me down trying to rip open my shirt to see my breasts.

I fear for my daughter. I hope she takes after my father's family, flat chested.

We need to educate all our children, what is acceptable behaviour. And to come to us, as their parents should ANYTHING happen.

Car seat

No idea which car seat to get next. Please hit me with your recommendations, 1year+ (preferably rear facing or 360). Thank you 🫶🏻