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My son likes his Gigi more than me. Anyone else? 😭

I just saw a video about how a sign that your child has secure attachment is if they prefer to be around you. He goes to daycare and definitely gets happy to see me when I pick him up. But at home he prefers to be around his Gigi (my mom). We’ve been living with her since he was born due to our situation. For example, when we get home from picking him up from daycare care he’ll go right up the stairs to see if his Gigi is there. If we’re chilling at home and I’m in my room with the door open but Gigi is in the living room, he’ll go to Gigi. I do all the parent stuff like feeding him and bathing him, getting him to sleep, taking him to daycare and appointments. But I guess maybe she is more playful with him and that makes him prefer her? My mom has definitely done a lot for my son so she is like a second parent to him, I just feel bad that maybe she’s doing too much and I’m not doing enough? She already parented me, she shouldn’t have to do it again. And I wanna be present for my son. Has anyone gone through this, or does anyone have any advice?

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Not with my mom, but it sounds like your mom is a “second parent,” and it’s good he seems securely attached to you BOTH. It’s good for children to have more than one secure attachment. My October babies are the same with their dad, they’re usually happy to see me, but they get home and look for dad! I think it’s so healthy and normal😊

Ive gone through this with my 18 month old daughter no matter if my dad comes to our house or we go to his my daughter always goes with him and him only 😂 i gave up on seeing if she chooses me because at the end of the day i know she feels safe around him and the bond the have is beyond anyones control at the end im her mom and she loves me and shell always grow up having all that love so im more than happy to let her be she even calls him dad and she has her dad 24/7 but to her he is her 2nd dad

Yes, my daughter is the same way with her grandfather, whom we live with, it definitely makes me upset that she goes to him so much and that she sees him more than her own dad cause he works so much. But he also doesn’t “parent or discipline her, so he’s just a fun adult to be around” i think thats the difference. It’s definitely hard though. But not much i can do till we find our own place.

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