Stressing about age gap

Here! My sister is 4 years younger than me. My husband is 2 years younger than his brother. None of us are particularly close, even though we see our siblings often enough. Our siblings are single & childless & very different from us individually.

My girl cousins are 7 years apart & they are best friends, do a lot of things together.

Another friend had her 1st & 2nd less than 18 months apart, hoping they’d be close & she says they are the least close of her 4 children 🤷🏻‍♀️

So I don’t think age gaps or sex matter for closeness :) I think it depends on personalities. Don’t worry :)

Also I have 3, who are 3 & 4 years apart! :) It wasn’t really planned that way, happened for reasons out of my control, but I’m happy with it. I got to spend a lot of time with each child during their toddler years, they’re potty trained, weaned & more independent. It’s so sweet watching them love their baby brother & my oldest will probably remember more about me being pregnant & him being a baby.

My hubby and I are in the same boat as you. As an educator, I see this gap a lot in siblings and they are totally fine and love playing with each other. My students tell me all about it all the time.

I feel like I could have written this myself; we initially wanted a 2 year gap between siblings, but had a medically complicated pregnancy and early toddlerhood for our little. We moved and she doesn’t have any children her age in her life so we put her in daycare (which actually only has one other child) and I got a new job. We planned for her to go for about a year before I would stop working again and have #2. But unfortunately life happened financially we aren’t ready for #2 yet and don’t see it happening for another 2ish years. I feel so regretful of not having a second sooner and that I stole that sibling relationship from her.

I am 3 years older than one of my sisters and 7 years older than the other. I definitely got along better with my youngest sister when we were kids.

My brother and I are 4 years apart and we have always been very close! Still hold a very close bond as adults. Him and my older sister are 2 years apart and they are not as close. So I don’t think age gap makes a difference!

Thanks everyone! I just felt so alone with literally everyone around me having 2 year gaps. It started to feel like bigger age gaps in my area are unheard of. I just needed to hear about something else!

I was just discussing with my wife, a 3-4 age gap for the second sounds ideal. I love the idea of our daughter being older and able to be involved with the baby. Also, it’s really just when they’re this little that it feels like a wider gap than it is. My sister is 5 years older than me and one of my closest friends now, and I loved having an older sister that was actually sweet and patient with me. I have a brother who’s 2 years older than me and we fought like cats and dogs. 😂 We’re amazing now though. It’s such a personal decision for your family. Don’t forget, that pressure doesn’t help the process of conceiving. Gotta destress mama! It’ll be okay!

Searched for this topic and did t realize this is an old post before replying. lol

haha thank you! I’m actually pregnant now and they’ll be just about 4 years apart. I’m hoping it works out! 🤞❤️